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A visit with the in laws

Prob. TMI  but here goes,

So, the DH and I don't have too much sex...maybe 4-6 times a month and I have only O during sex maybe 5 times. I'm on some meds that make it really really hard to get turned on and also O. Anyway...last week we spent thurs-fri night with the in laws. We had sex both nights! The first night we both O at the same exact time, it was awesome. That has only happened one other time. The next night, I O then later he did. (that's really abnormal for us, bc he can't usually last long at all). I'm pretty certain that the family heard us too. Their walls are super thin. The brother and sister in laws were next door and the parents were across. Oh well. I guess now we are going to have to start going over there more often so that we can have great sex. I also realized that I like it more when it's "illegal" in my mind...aka in public, etc. The bedroom and living room are just boring to me, and its boring when I plan to have sex. Unfortunately, the dh is a super rule follower and won't have sex in public. (we did once at the beach during the day and also got caught, but that was the only time we have ever done it outside)

Any ideas on how to get him more into this type of thing? I'd also like to try role playing, and we have tried before. But we both felt stupid, and he didn't like it too much. Anyway, I know I am rambling, but I just wanted to share my exciting news!!

Daisypath Next Aniversary Ticker

Re: A visit with the in laws

  • lol, congratulations!

    I'm more like your DH. If I'm afraid of getting caught, I can't enjoy myself and it's nearly impossible to let go and O. Plus, getting arrested for lewd behavior (or whatever they charge you with when you get busted having sex in public) would have ended my career.

    I guess after you revisit the in-laws, you could try your friends' houses. If they're not okay with that, they might not be your friends for very long, though.

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    I wrote this! 
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    I guess after you revisit the in-laws, you could try your friends' houses. If they're not okay with that, they might not be your friends for very long, though.

    BAHAHA Yeah, they would not be cool with that.  

    Daisypath Next Aniversary Ticker
  • What I have found to spice things up more is bringing in toys to experiment, bought a sex swing to liven things up.  I am not into role playing, we feel dumb doing it, so we don't try.  You need to find something that will work the two of you, though having sex at your IL's house might be great, experimenting at home is the best place.  I recommend a nice glass of wine to unwind, a nice porn and go at it.  Works all the time. 
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  • Maybe find a way to compromise at home.  Sex in the living room w/o closing the curtains or in your own backyard at night. So, you could still get caught, but only by someone really trying.  ;-)
    DS1 age 7, DD age 5 and DS2 born 4/3/12
  • Too funny.  No matter the dry spell for some reason when we are at DHs grandparent's house he gets luck.  He is upset it is a 6 hour drive though.
  • Try setting the mood early. When you leave for work, give DH a really awesome kiss. While you are at work, send him a flirty text message like "I'm thinking about you....can't wait to see you tonight".
  • I have no advice for you but I had to tell you congrats!!! Smile It's always better when you both O at the same time.
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