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Book "Summer Sisters"

So, kinda off the wall but I was wondering who had read this book and at what age? I bought it for my 15 yr old sister for x-mas (she'll  be 16 in march) and my mom absolutly flipped out on me. She accused me of buying my little sister 'soft porn" etc. So, just wondered from those of you who read it and what you thought. I read it for the first time when I was probably 16 and loved it; thought the sex scenes were interesting but nothing I didn;t know about and here people talking about at school.

Re: Book "Summer Sisters"

  • I was probably in my 20's when I read that book. It didn't make me feel uncomfortable at that age, but when I was 15/16 I would have found it a bit uncomfortable. I think your mom does have a point.
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  • I know myself I read that book young, but my mom was open to talk to us about sex about anything.  Maybe she doesn't want you to bring anything like that up with your sister.  Honestly for a 16 year old, its nothing they haven't already heard, and in HS they have definitely heard worse stuff in school.
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  • It didn't come out until I was about 20 and I read it right then. I don't think its bad for a 15 or 16 year old, but isn't that really up to YOU and not your mom? 
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    It didn't come out until I was about 20 and I read it right then. I don't think its bad for a 15 or 16 year old, but isn't that really up to YOU and not your mom? 

    I do not agree with this.  I think since her sister is still a minor her MOTHER has absolutely every right to have a say in what her underage daughter reads.  OP probably should have talked it over with her mother prior to giving her sister this gift.

    Now, I am no prude, but as a mother I would want to make sure my daughter was ready to read something with very adult themes in it. 

  • On a side note, if my underage daughter received a book that I was unfamiliar with I would probably read it first then make a decision.
  • Ask your sister. Her opinion matters too. I am sure that she knows about what themes run in the book. She has probably heard worse in school and what if she is sexually active? Maybe your mom doesn't know.

    Talk with your mom and ask her what her concerns are. And talk with your sister and see if she would feel comfortable. Maybe your mom and sister could read it together and discuss it. I know that might be awkward but that seems like a good solution. 

  • I misread, I apologize. I thought this was for your 15 year old daughter... oops. 
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  • My best friend and I read it when we were about 17 and we loved it.
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  • I would agree that it is up to my mom to decide what is appropriate or not. If she had just taken the book away from sis it wouldn't have been a big deal. I guess it was more her approach and the fact that she acted like I was a bad person for have even liked the book myself.

     

  • yes, your mothers approach was bad.  I would talk to her about that.
  • I read the book in college.  Even at the time I felt a bit weird reading it.  I agree talk to your sister about it, let her know if that you read it at that age.  And if she does have sex scenes in it and if she wants to talk about it give you a call! 
  • I read it.  Despite being by Judy Blume, it's actually an adult book.  That said, 15 is certainly old enough to read any novel written for adults.  And isn't 15 way too old for monitored reading?  My parents were overprotective as hell, but my reading materials stopped being preread and censored once I hit 12.
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  • I read Summer Sisters when I was in my 20s and was fine with it.  I don't think I would have reacted all that differently in my teens.  But it's different for everyone.

    I agree with Kuus- I think that at 15 you're old enough to read whatever you want.  I have issues with censoring what kids read.  While my parents had limits with what movies I could see, they never censored my reading, and I'm extremely grateful for that.

     

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  • I just read it.  i was surprised by some of what Judy wrote.  Wasn't expecting that.

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  • Okay, I know I have read it but I can't remember anything juicy..

    That is the book that at the end one of the sisters goes on a boat & is becomes missing or something??

     

  • I would agree that 15 is too old for monitored reading. When I was living at home my mom never monitored what I read when I was that age, in fact I never remember her monitoring what I read.

  • I read it around that age for the first time and it is one of my favorite books.  I think there are some references that I didn't quite catch at that age, but I don't think the sexual part is so much worse than other books kids are reading in their teens. 
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  • I read it when I was about 15 and I absolutely loved the book. I even recommended it to my aunt who loved it too.  I don't see anything wrong with it
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