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If you've ever felt so petty

Nephew was born last night but we just got a text at 1:30am saying that he had arrived and then no follow up on name or weight or anything else. So I texted BIL (the dad) and asked for more details, nothing. I called during my recess break, no answer, I left a message and nothing. Finally I text again at 4pm asking if we can come at around 6 to visit. He answers yes and then I respond by asking him his name. Which he now told me.

Now my DH is BILs closest sibling. My whackadoo SIL who lives in the same town as us was supposed to be on the secondary list. BIL and I usually have a good relationship. BILs wife and I have a really good relationship but I'm feeling a little hurt that I wasn't informed earlier (DH didn't know either). I know this is their day but I'm also feeling petty that W-SIL knew everything at the same time as us.   Plus she's coming to the hospital tonight and really even though SIL and BIL can't stand her I am going out of my mind with pettiness that I hope I'm there before her.

I KNOW I will get to see nephew so much more then she ever will but this little thing is just making me livid with pettiness. 

 

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Re: If you've ever felt so petty

  • Alright. Auntie Petty has calmed down a little. DH and BIL did talk at lunch. That calms me a little. But I told DH he needs to be telling me these things. Voice mail works. I'm going to go have some wine to calm the rest of me.
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  • Wow. Petty. Sooooooooooo petty. Wow.

  • Should I be dding Mel?
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  • That sucks :( I'm sorry you're hurt, it never feels nice to be left out of news you were looking forward to so much.

    Having a baby is such a crazy time, though. When our son was born I called my best friend. That's it. My husband called my parents when I was in the recovery room (c-section). He called a couple of his siblings and his mom and his best friend the next day. Then we got busy and he somehow forgot to return to his list of people to call. His dad ended up finding out from neighbours, who were my husband's best friend's parents.

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  • And I know that it's crazy for them. That's why I feel bad for feeling so petty. If the situation in no way included Wackadoo SIL I would feel completely differently.
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  • lol no need to delete. It's just, whoa, they just had a babeh...so not the time for that stuff. Just enjoy it when you can, and never mind crazy lady SIL. It;s not like they didn't tell you for a week or something. Plus, lots going on, overwhelmshen with the feelings and such...it's all good aunty!
  • B was born at 11PM and we didn't tell anyone until 7AM the next morning. We didn't want to call or text anyone in the middle of the night when everything was fine.

    Do I think you are being petty? Totally. They probably had so much going on that being bombarded with calls and TM was probably over the top for them (as I am sure others were doing the same).

    Enjoy meeting the little man tonight and don't worry who else is there. It doesn't take away from your moment with him.

  • Just keep in mind that you'll probably be his favorite aunt over WSIL!  Congratulations!
  • eh, I think it is petty, but I think you realize that. Some people just get under your skin, like you said, if it had been anyone else it wouldn't have bothered you.

    She's just one of those people who has that affect on you (I think we all have someone like that....), don't stress over it! The real goal is trying to keep the nutjob from being a big part of the little guy's life as he grows up. 

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