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B-Jobs

I'm beyond bored this morning and was comparing notes with some of my girlfriends this weekend. There was a WIDE variety of answers! Also, explain your answer below because I'm bored and nosy.

(Also what do you consider a bjob? Is just going down on him enough to consider it a bjob... or do you only consider it a bjob if you finish him off? Does what you think differ from what he thinks?)

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Re: B-Jobs

  • I think you have to "finish" for it to be considered a b-job.  If you don't finish it is just foreplay.
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  • imageilovedesi:
    I think you have to "finish" for it to be considered a b-job.  If you don't finish it is just foreplay.

    This.

  • Oh, I forgot to "explain" my answer.  I picked "about once a week" .  Usually during my aunt flo week I will give hubby a bj because I'm not going to DTD with him.  There are some weeks when I don't give any bjs at all but this is usually the week closest to my ovulation time.
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  • I forgot too...I voted "almost never" because frankly I don't like doing it and I'll only do it if he starts getting on my nerves about it.
  • I chose "once a week" but that was before I was pregnant. I've just been to nauseas and had such a nasty gag reflex since november that I haven't tried. Before it was about 50-50 on if he finished in my mouth or if it led to regular sex.
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  • I consider it a BJ regardless of whether he finshes or not.  If is d!ck is goin' in my mouth, I get credit for a BJ dammit.  He only gets them on Steak and BJ Day. 

    I kid.....every once in a while is what I picked because that's probably how often it happens...maybe once a month.  I get oral way more than I give it. 

  • Ditto Karrey--I consider it a BJ regardless of whether he finishes or not.  I answered about once a week...we have nights where we have sexy time but just don't actually have sex. 
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  • I chose once and week. I agree with desi, it's only a bj if he finishes otherwise it's foreplay (or if you stop all together it's mean and blueballs).

    When DH and I were first together, we were young and waited quite a while before we had sex, so bjs were much more common: 3 - 5 times a week. Once we started having sex, they became much less common but still anywhere from 1 - 3 times a week depending.

  • It's a BJ if he finishes or not.

    I picked once a week, almost every other time we have sexthere is a bJ involved in some part of the deed.

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    I consider it a BJ regardless of whether he finshes or not.  If is d!ck is goin' in my mouth, I get credit for a BJ dammit.  He only gets them on Steak and BJ Day. 

    I kid.....every once in a while is what I picked because that's probably how often it happens...maybe once a month.  I get oral way more than I give it. 

    Agreed. And actually, that's the only way they happen around here. If he's to finish, he'll do in my hand, not my mouth.

    It happens every once in a while, especially since we're not having sex too often right now. But I'm sure he'll be getting them more in the next 2 months.

     

  • I'm replying to this on my BlackBerry so I don't set off the mature content alarm on our work network! Haha! I answered every once in awhile. Usually a few times a month. It appears I am a meaner wife than most!
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  • He used to get them a TON when we first started dating...we didnt do the deed for the first 6 months of dating...so he got them a lot.

    Now its like once every few months....

  • I am proud to say that I was once voted "BJ Queen" by my friends in college.

     Unfortunately for DH, once you get married, you lose that title, so he gets them only once in awhile.  Like when he picks up a Blizzard for me from DQ.  Or kills wolf spiders. 

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  • I didn't vote.  As of right now, the timing has to be perfect for anything to happen...baby asleep or contentedly elsewhere distracted, him freshly showered, and foreplay started well before the point where my eyelids need toothpicks.  This magical celestial alignment is never occurs.  Inevitably, the baby needs attention, he is sweaty and stinky and trying to get my attention when I have to get up in 6 hours for work.  Fuggetaboutit.  Sad
  • DH is self conscious about recieving them, so I luck out! But, since I'm not giving I don't recieve oral either...and that is a No!
  • I put "once in a while" because it's definitely not in the weekly category, but close enough. I am still torn, though, about whether or not sucking without finishing constitutes foreplay or an actual beej. The world may never know, I guess. Stick out tongue
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    I consider it a BJ regardless of whether he finshes or not.  If is d!ck is goin' in my mouth, I get credit for a BJ dammit. 

     I get oral way more than I give it. 

    Ditto this.

    Also, I have an incredibly sensitive gag reflex (even before I was pregnant) so I picked almost never b/c I hate giving them.  I'm a mean wife.

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  • I say almost never, because I have a very bad gag reflex and I have mild TMJ, so it's not the most comfortable thing for me with a bad jaw. Not to mention, I really don't like giving them haha I'm a mean wife too I guess!
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  • imageRachel2315:

    I am proud to say that I was once voted "BJ Queen" by my friends in college.

     Unfortunately for DH, once you get married, you lose that title, so he gets them only once in awhile.  Like when he picks up a Blizzard for me from DQ.  Or kills wolf spiders. 

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  • imageilovedesi:
    imageRachel2315:

    I am proud to say that I was once voted "BJ Queen" by my friends in college.

     Unfortunately for DH, once you get married, you lose that title, so he gets them only once in awhile.  Like when he picks up a Blizzard for me from DQ.  Or kills wolf spiders. 

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    lol
  • imageKarrey31:

    I consider it a BJ regardless of whether he finshes or not.  If is d!ck is goin' in my mouth, I get credit for a BJ dammit. 

    I get oral way more than I give it. 

    This. DH got them way more often before we got married, but not so much anymore. Sometimes before things get really hot and heavy, but not often.

  • imageilovedesi:
    imageRachel2315:

    I am proud to say that I was once voted "BJ Queen" by my friends in college.

     Unfortunately for DH, once you get married, you lose that title, so he gets them only once in awhile.  Like when he picks up a Blizzard for me from DQ.  Or kills wolf spiders. 

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    My thoughts exactly.

  • First, I agree with Karrey - if it's in my mouth, it counts.  He never finishes that way.

    And Rachel - do you have a book, or a video tutorial?  Us mere peons would love to learn from the BJ Queen!  Wink

  • I voted once in a while...and I DEFINITELY agree with Karrey and the other girls...If it's in my mouth I have given a BJ Dammit!!

    Lately it's been less frequent just due to me being preggo and not being able to get comfortable to do it! He used to get them much more!

    We shall see when Sadie comes!!

  • imagewendilea:

    First, I agree with Karrey - if it's in my mouth, it counts.  He never finishes that way.

    And Rachel - do you have a book, or a video tutorial?  Us mere peons would love to learn from the BJ Queen!  Wink

    LOL!

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