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Random thoughts, confessions
Anything? Anyone?
I miss the nonsense chatter on the board sometimes. Tis been quiet kinda.
Re: Random thoughts, confessions
I have an AW.
I got contacted by a publisher today to host an author interview, blog tour, and contest on my blog! They're going to send me a copy of the book to review, I get to interview the author, and I get books and swag to give away on my blog. I'm excited because my main book goal this year was to grow my blog. I'm excited that it's working!
That's awesome YL! Woot!
I'm very distracted this week. And I'm leaving for Michigan tomorrow, so I really need to get some work done.
You want a confession:
My H and I separated months ago (we haven't filed for divorce yet), last week I found out that he got another chick pregnant since we've separated. Yes, I just posted that on a public forum. I don't care anymore. That's why I was having a bad week. I'm doing much better and can almost laugh about it. I'm just glad we were already separated. His life is f*cked. My daughter and I will be fine.
Ack C I'm so sorry. You will be ok too- you and you daughter WILL get through this mess and come out better for it in the end.
HUGE hugs friend.
Y_L that's awesome!
oh my goodness. yay!/boo.
i'm super excited because i connected with a chick who lives practically around the corner from me who does private sewing lessons at her in-home studio for super cheap. i may get to jonesy level yet!
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
Thanks guys I really wasn't looking for pity. I really am in a better place. This just confirms that what I'm doing is the right thing. It does suck, but I'm a strong person and will get through it. And D, thanks but no thanks for any baked goods! I'm on a diet!!
YL- that's great!
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
YL - I'll say it again, congrats and well deserved! Your blog is fab, I tell everyone I know about it.
C - Hugs and *definite* empathy
My confession: My own daughter told me she thinks her stepmom is better than me because she isn't busy all the time like I am. We talked it out and I think she understands that Mommy has to work and go to school to make our lives better etc but I know that her stepmother has leeway to do fun things with her than I do. I still feel like there's a knife in my heart and I know I'm not handling it as well as I probably could or should but I really feel like it's unfair that I have to be compared to woman who stole my husband. I mean first he chooses her and now my daughter does too? It just makes me so unbearably sad.
So things aren't so pink for Pinky today. :-( Sorry to be a bummer.
C- {Hugs}
Pinky - I love how your daughter and you have a relationship where she will share those thoughts with you. I would have never talked to my mom about things like that, and I really want my daughter to be able to talk to me about everything, even things that will hurt my feelings. Hugs... I want to throat punch the stepmom for you.
My confession: I keep fantasizing about being a SAHM. I've even talked to H about moving out of state. He just laughs at me.
Cort - that's really awful. I would be seeing red in that situation. It does confirm getting separated is the right thing to do for you and your daughter, and you'll be better off in the future.
Pinky - that really stinks. I think how hard you work for your daughter now is something she'll appreciated when she's older.
Oh Pinky. ::::heart breaks::::
Your princess is sooo little and doesn't know any better ya know? She's not choosing her over you- she's just voicing that she misses you. It's a tough trade off.
My mom was a single parent also she was ALWAYS working. I was alone a whole lot. It sucked. but now as a grown @$$ adult I see how hard she worked and why- I have SO much respect for her. MIND BLOWING.
So keep up the good work. I know it's tough but be thankful that step mom is doing things to make princess happy. She could be doing otherwise ya know? It's a mixed blessing in complete disguise I know.
Ditto.
You guys are awesome thank you.<3
I know in my head that one day she'll appreciate how hard I work and how much it kills me to have to spend any time apart from her. I also know that she is very lucky to have a stepmother that loves her and thinks of her as her own child, it could have gone the other way very easily.
I just wish it didn't make me feel like such a failure as a mom. I know that I'm not, but today I feel like one.
this.
FWIW, I'm always amazed with both of your posts. I don't know either of you IRL, but I think I have a good sense of how strong you are and what amazing mothers you are as well.
Pinky and Cort - big huge hugs and fat free cupcakes from me to you.
This exactly.
This exactly.
I just popped in late and read Cort & Pinky's posts. It breaks my heart to hear what BOTH of you are dealing with right now.
Cort, my BFF was in a situation SUPER similar to you except she had a 2yr old boy. Her ex knocked up some stripper and royally screwed his life up. The payoff in the end is that he will NEVER have you or "the good life" again. He's going to suffer watching you have a happy future. It's just a matter of time but it will taste great later. You have a great head on your shoulders and he was beneath you anyway....remember that.
Pinky, I hate to say this but I was that kid once telling my mom the same thing. I regret it SO much to this day. My parents divorced and my mom had to bust her azz to stay above water while my dad had the fun girlfriends and weekends. You daughter will see the big picture soon. It didn't take me long to figure out what a soldier she was (and is). You are a kick ass mom and your daughter knows that deep in her heart.
Hang in there ladies!