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Newlywed needs help...
So my husband and I have only been married a few weeks and we both were virgins when we married. Before we got married we pretty much did everything but sex so we've both experienced the big one several times but now with intercourse I can't seem to have an inner O, he has no problem obviously, but I was curious to figure out how I can achieve the inner O in th short time it takes my husband to go, that way we can go at the same time and he doesn't have to "get me" with his fingers or some other stimulating device. We still have great sex but I'd like to work more on getting us to go at the same time. Any advice is appreciated!
Re: Newlywed needs help...
Some girls can't Orgasm from sex and need oral or manual stimulation...this might be you.
have lots of foreplay, if you're already really excited by the time you have sex it might be easier for you to Orgasm.
Have him play with you while you're having sex, either with his hand or using a small vibrator. Or play with yourself while he's inside you.
Try masturbation.
Then show him what makes you orgasm.
Is he finishing too soon? Have him use a condom to decrease sensation until he learns to delay his orgasm. And ditto the pps.
One suggestion that might help you get their slowly. Try picking-up one of the vibrating rings that has a stimulation point that sits right at your clitorous. The ring itself will help delay his orgasm while the stimulation point will help you to get better aroused during intercourse. You can gradually then ween yourself from more stimulation by the vibrator, and more using his tool. You can find examples of such by utilizing the following link:
http://www.amazon.com/Screaming-Glow-Illuminated-Multi-Stage-Vibrating/dp/B001PU7WUK/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1263232120&sr=1-3
Good luck!
This.
It took me almost 6 years, and that was with the help of an exceptionally skilled and patient lover.
That kind of penetrative, g-spot orgasm is not one I've been able to achieve solo, so tell your man to read some books and figure it out!
Everything the pp's said.
Also, simutaneous orgasm is novel experience. Don't expect it every time. Often, one partner will be helping the other to reach their O after they have already climaxed.
I was thesame way and felt doomed to never have one! UNTIL I went on top, and rocked back and forth. It doesn't stimulate him AS much but he's super happy that I get an O on my own. It was super disappointing before.
Try it!
Try using a vibrating c-ring on him. It gives you stimulation your clitoris and vibration on the inside. Also, try some different lubricants. They make lubricants specifically for female arousal and orgasm. I haven't tried any yet, but it couldn't hurt to try!
Good luck
Agreed!