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The Mr. and His Job (advice please)
This could turn out to be long so please bear with me. The Mr started his job last May after being laid off from a company that had been hit pretty hard by the recession. At first he really enjoyed it because he was in management and he likes doing paper work and numbers, plus he got a decent wage. However for the last 3 months head office has come down on him pretty hard for various things. For example the preformance of his employees, their poor sales, and the fact that the day after the wedding no one even bothered to go open the store and he got blasted about that the Monday he got back to work (he didn't even know anything about it until they started giving him hell!)
As you can guess The Mr. is in retail and his store is in an awful area of town filled with vagrants and right next to a seedy bar. His employees are basically stoners who have a couldn't care less attitude and right now he frankly hates every minute he has to spend there. He's hired and fired so many slack workers and tries his best to keep the place in line but it just seems to not be worth it anymore.
He's started to apply to other jobs and is looking at school but his real issue is should he quit and look or look while he's still employed. His head office manager is coming on Sunday to have a meeting with all the staff and he figures he's going to get let go anyway. I think he's paranoid but he's genuinely worried. He figures he should get out while the getting is good but I am nervous about this because I don't want him to be unemployed but I also don't want him to be misrable.
Re: The Mr. and His Job (advice please)
A few years back DH was stuck in a job he hated. Luckily he and I both had the same philosphy that a job is way too important to walk away from. He stuck it out until he found another job, that even payed more.
My opinion is to stick it out until he finds something new or gets layed off and it able to collect unemployment while actively looking for another job. Sometimes life sucks and jobs suck, but you just gotta stick it out.
Definitely look while he's still employed - it's a win win situation. If he finds another job, he can move on and be happy. If he gets fired before he has a new job, he can collect unemployment while he's looking. Either way, looking now will only help you.
I've been in that crappy situation your DH is in - it's not fun. Tell him to stick it out until a better situation comes along. Sometimes it's just a matter of using the company, meaning, the only reason he's there is to get his paycheck. When things got bad at my old job, I focused on that rather than the drama, and it really helped.
Think of it this way: if they do plan to let him go, he will get unemployment, right? It's better than if he just quits.
Start looking ASAP.