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My sister, the PITA
She had a big birthday party for my nephew. Didn't invite me or our other sister. We found out about it on FB.
She works at WalMart as a Food Dept. Manager. She has an attitude problem/emotional issues, so she gets in trouble and gets overlooked for promotion. She hates it. When she found out we were looking for childcare for Scarlett, she texted me that she wanted to quit and watch Scarlett.
Over my dead body will she raise my child.
It's so sad that I feel that way. And I don't know how to tell her Oh Hell No in a nice way. Not to mention she hasn't considered she would have to commute 35 miles each way with her two kids to do it. Just to bail out on the plan, eventually, over something stupid and cause another family rift.
This is the same sister that threatened to bail out of the wedding because she didn't like the dress choices. The same sister that threatened to bail out of attending our father's memorial because I changed my mind about taking an RV.
And my mom, the other PITA, stripped all the excitement out of J's job prospect with one of her "Oh's." ...The Oh that really means, "That sounds like a poorly-thought out idea. Where is my grandchild going to end up? This is not your original plan, which I also didn't like and said Oh to."
Grrr. And they wonder why I don't call or hang out...
Re: My sister, the PITA
Grrrr family members like that really drive me wacko. What in her right mind thinks that she is a good candidate for watching a child? Just because she has two?
And I know that Oh all too well. Sorry love! That sucks. How is the prospect going? Any new news?
This...crazy how some people think that having a kid magically makes you a mature adult. Oy.
I'm sorry about the drama...lots of vibes that it will die down and that the prospect will work out.
I hate the "Oh"
My MIL has it perfected.
Sorry you're dealing with family dramz. I don't think I'd let a family member do daycare full time for Hunter. 6 hours a week with my MIL is bad enough, I already feel like she's mind controlling him.
This, its funny to me that people think they are experts on children because they have them. Not every parent is suited to watch other people's children.
Yes, I would just tell her I'd be 'concerned' with her driving the 35 mi. in the snow, etc... -oh, wait-you don't get that there, do you? Um, very rainy weather?... No, I'd just say this is convenient for you two and you already have it worked out or ignore it...
As for the mom... Well, it's YOUR life... YOU are the ones who have to be happy w decisions. Let her make faces/sounds!
GL!
I'm sure you'll think of some very diplomatic way to say "OH HEL*L NO B*TCH." Because you're rational and normal, unlike them.
::brushing dirt of Aria's shoulder::
Well said, Erin!
It's hilarious I woke up to this post because I had a dream last night I was fighting with my sister and ended up pulling her hair because I was so mad. Mature, right?
No one pushes your buttons more than your family. I'm sorry your mom isn't helping the matter either . . . I'd do my best to ignore them and remember you know what's best for your family (which duh, you know). It's easier said than done thuogh.
And supress your urge to laugh when you tell you sister, "NO WAY JOSE."
Oh I feel your pain (remember my post from a couple of days ago about my nephews bday in Disney that I can't go to?). Not only does she know that I can't go, but I also found out on FB. I am so sorry. It is so frustrating because you KNOW that you are better than the attitude that you are receiving and that you don't deserve it, but it still hurts. As far as the daycare thing? Yeah, I have to agree wih the others. My little sis is always trying to tell me things about pregnancy and parenting. Riiiiight, you don't even take care of your baby, your mom does everything (literally she lives with her and my smom gets up with him in the night, gives him all of his meals, bathes him, EVERYTHING).
I get the "Oh" from my mom a lot too. That's usually when I say I have to go and don't talk to her for a while. So irritating.
Ditto!! You'll find a way to say that's not going to work for you, period.
And about mom: just nod and move on. It's your decision, and her opinion has nothing to do with it.
::hugs::