Wedding shower advice needed

Honeydew1894 · January 2010

Hey gals! Long story short, my cousin lives in FL but is having her shower here. She only wants money or for ppl to donate to her furniture fund. While we all find this a bit tacky, we need to find a way to word the shower invite so that her wishes are known. I realize all the problems that this arrangement poses--like what to do at a shower where there are no gifts to open, etc. but we are trying to honor what she wants. Any ideas?

GlenLakeLove · January 2010

That's a tough position for you to be put in...IMO, I'm not sure if there's a way to word it where I wouldn't get the invite and be a little put off at her money grab. However, maybe a little note about the bride wishing to redecorate with new furniture so GCs to (furniture place) would be helpful.

goosh24 · January 2010

That puts you in a weird situation. Does she have a wedding website? If not, maybe suggest she do one and you could put the link on the invite or do a little card with the link on it. That way, you don't have to feel like the tacky one for putting it on there.

srblack72 · January 2010

goosh24:
That puts you in a weird situation. Does she have a wedding website? If not, maybe suggest she do one and you could put the link on the invite or do a little card with the link on it. That way, you don't have to feel like the tacky one for putting it on there.

Ditto this. Then you can just put "please see so-and-so's wedding website (LINK) for registry information." and let her figure out how to word it.

MarcyIam · January 2010

srblack72:

goosh24:
That puts you in a weird situation. Does she have a wedding website? If not, maybe suggest she do one and you could put the link on the invite or do a little card with the link on it. That way, you don't have to feel like the tacky one for putting it on there.

Ditto this. Then you can just put "please see so-and-so's wedding website (LINK) for registry information." and let her figure out how to word it.

Agreed. Good luck with this one. And I guess you could just do games and food and leave it at that? Unless people do actually bring gifts, then those can be opened?

Dar080808 · January 2010

I'm with the other ladies. I was going to say she should set up a registry website. Sort of like people that have a honeymoon registry - only in this case, it would be for furniture and stuff.

GlenLakeLove · January 2010

Make sure you know the guests before directing to a website. I know about half of my guests didn't have a computer/internet (all older family members) and would've been clueless, which could've led to some interesting gifts.

MoxyMissi · January 2010

Yikes - that is tacky!! I think the best way to handle it is what the pp's said - referring people to her wedding website. I think most public libraries offer free internet use, so unless she has older relatives who are shut-ins (in which case, they most likely wouldn't make it to the shower anyway), that should take care of everyone. And if she gets a few towels or toasters, so what? These are people who are trying to do something nice for her, she will (hopefully) have the good grace to smile and say thank you anyway.

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