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Reconnected with an old friend
I had trouble sleeping last night and wrote for a bit and came back on facebook.
There was an old friend with whom I have lost touch with in high school. We met up here and there until about sophomore year out of college...until last night.
Her life is so messed up I had nightmares, it's truly awful. She has become a manic, frightened person and I have no idea what is true and what isn't. Talking to her was worse than a train wreck...and when I say talking I mean on the phone. We haven't talked in years and she just started blabbling everything that happened to her as soon as she picked up. I had no idea what she was saying half the time. She is not over things boys did to her in HS...yes HS. When pretty much she was like every other girl in the world and was insecure and used boyfriends as a tool for trying to get love etc etc. But now....almost 14 years later from some of these guys she is furious that they were not nicer to her, wanted sex etc. She even tries to CALL them. I understand closure but it seems she has become stalkerish.
She told me she was scared of my mom! My mom?!?!?! Really? Because waaaay back when we were 16 she got puking drunk at a party and my mom had to pick us up and bring her home. She said that my mom hated her ever since and she never really saw my mom after that...which is not even the truth. I was like......ummmmm ok? My mom doesn't hate you and never did.
The entire conversation was horribly sad. On top of it...she has a daughter. She is so messed up from depression and anxiety she can't hold a job. I'm not even sure if she should be able to take care of her daughter...she sounded so messed up. On top of that her daughter is 2 and was up still at 2am.
I had horrid nightmares about her after our conversation and have no idea what to do. Not saying I don't want to help an old friend but she is really messed up. She thinks everyone is out to get her, that the government is out to get her. She's ready to sue half of everyone who wronged her years ago and in some cases she does has a point but I mean...everyone is out to get her. It was the worst reconnection I have ever had in my life.
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