Do they have facebook in heaven?

keb270 · January 2010

A girl I went to high school with committed suicide last year before Christmas. I recently came across a facebook page dedicated to her. Only it's not about sharing memories, it is for writing notes to her. Her mom updates it almost daily with what she is doing. I understand that this can be carthartic for some people, but I personally would rather not write what I want to tell that person on a public forum. What are your thoughts on this?

hawkilady · January 2010

Yikes... that is a little strange. I could understand where her mom is coming from but yeah I think there could have been a better way to do it.

I got a FB friend request for a girl who was in a fatal car accident about a year ago a few months ago. One of her close friends decided to take over her FB account when she passed away as a memorial site. Its very odd.

megs1383 · January 2010

im agree with you in that if i were going to write a note to someone who has passed away, i'd probably want to keep that more private vs. posting it on a public forum.

But i guess i can see how it might make the mom feel good to manage a site like that and see all of the nice thoughts and memories people are sharing about her daughter.

mamie329 · January 2010

They always creep me out too, though I haven't had the opportunity to see one in action. I guess I can't judge since I haven't experienced it. It could be cathartic I guess.

p.s. keb- your new fb pic is ridiculously cute.

keb270 · January 2010

mamie329:

p.s. keb- your new fb pic is ridiculously cute.

Thanks Mamie

luckycooky · January 2010

That seems like it would just be creepy. I can see getting those feelings out after a loved one but a fb page just does not seem like the right forum.

SBS0628 · January 2010

Okay, color me confused...

Is this an actual profile -- like, individual profile most of us maintain -- or is it a "fan page"/group/something similar?

I don't find the latter to be strange or creepy, if it is set up as a "In Memory of Jane Doe" type page. But talking to the person like he/she is still alive, in my opinion, may be more harmful than helpful to the healing process.

kaleyandjason · January 2010

I am still FB friends with a guy who died of alcohol poisoning last year. His family keeps updating it, and when I see a new status from him, it weirds me out.

gmk1784 · January 2010

My cousin passed away in October and his facebook page is still active. People still post pictures (mostly of ugly memorial tattoos) and write him little messages, but nobody updates it. That would be really weird. I just don't like seeing him pop up when facebook tells me I need to reconnect with him. I would love to but it's not an option. I think there's a way to memorialize facebook pages of deceased people. I may do that for him.

keb270 · January 2010

SBS0628:

Okay, color me confused...

Is this an actual profile -- like, individual profile most of us maintain -- or is it a "fan page"/group/something similar?

I don't find the latter to be strange or creepy, if it is set up as a "In Memory of Jane Doe" type page. But talking to the person like he/she is still alive, in my opinion, may be more harmful than helpful to the healing process.

The one I saw was a fan page type thing. I think an actual profile would freak me out even more...

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