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I gave my notice to work yesterday...

I guess I was a little ambitous in expecting I could stay here for a while.  I cant.  My life revolved around Mike for the last 6 years that I have lived here and I don't know how to have a life here without him.  I plan to move home sooner than later.  I have to sell my house but I may even move down before it sells.  I am nervous as hell but I hope that I am doing the right thing.  I simply don't have a support system up here.  My inlaws are great, but they don't replace my friends and family.  And my family can be kookie, but they are my family.

Ugh and now I have to start getting this house ready to sell.  That means going through Mike's stuff.  Scuba diving gear, weight lifting gear, thousands of CDs and God knows what else.  I get anxious just thinking about it.

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  • Good Morning C!

    You are a strong woman and you can do this!  We are all here for you.

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  • You have to do what your gut is telling you. I think you're amazingly strong and have been thinking of you. Can anyone come and help you sort through the house?
  • I'm sad you'll be moving away, but good for you for taking control and doing what's best for you.  Let me know if you need help with anything.
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  • If I were in your shoes, I would probably be making the same decision.  I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
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  • I am amazed at your strength. I wish you peace and healing in your new venture.
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  • It's best to be around your family. I can not imagine how hard it must be to go through all that stuff, I'm so sorry.
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  • If I were in your shoes I'd be doing the same thing.  Let me know if you need any help with anything at all.
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  • It sounds like it will be good for you to move, especially if you have family you can be near.  I hope you have help with things?  I hope you are hanging in there and it seems like moving would be a good idea.  Keep us posted.
  • I agree!  I would definitely be doing the same thing you're doing.  Best wishes with the move and I know you'll be happy with your decision in the long run. 
  • (((HUGS))). I don't blame you at all for wanting to move home. I would too. Good luck with going through the stuff... I'm sure it will be hard. Let us know if you need anything. I hope the house sells quickly for you.
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  • I think you're doing the right thing - if it's what your heart is telling you what you need, then it's right.
  • You have to do what's best for you.  I think I'd be doing the same thing if I were in your shoes.  You're strong and you'll get through this.  Hang in there!!!
  • Riv, I'm so sorry you're going through this, and it sounds like you are taking steps that you need to. I am so glad that you are going to be with your family and your friends.

    I'm local, and if there is anything we can do to help in the house process, please don't hestitate to let me know.

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  • Following your gut/heart takes a lot of strength and I admire you for that. In your shoes I'd be doing the same thing. There is no substitute for family (even kookie family). My only advice is to not force yourself to go through Mike's things if you can't.  There is no harm in having it sent with your stuff and putting it in storage for a bit.

    Check back in with us soon! 

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  • You will always be part of us C....you better still nest with us UNY'ers!

    I like Two's idea, storage until you can deal with his things. I think your making the right choice, you need as much support as you can get! You are a very strong chica, but you can only hold up so long before you need family to lean on.

    Like the other Roc girls said, please let us know if we can do anything at all!

  • Yall are the best.  I might take your advice Two- that seems to make things a little easier! 
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  • Riv - only you know what is best for you.  Anytime things are tough we are all here for you.  The strength and courage you have shown to all of us is admirable beyond words.  I hope that things go as smoothly for you as they possibly can.
  • sounds like you are making the right decision. I can't imagine not being around family at a time like this.

    Take it day by day, I'm sure it will be hard. Think of all the good memories when you go through his stuff.

  • I agree with pp and I think I would probably do the same thing.  You are a very strong woman.
  • I think it's great that you are doing what is best for you. Being close to your friends and family is just something you can't get somewhere else. I'm happy that you will get the support system you need.

    Just remember...you are ALWAYS an Upstate Nestie :o)

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  • I would do the samething.  i hope the house sells quickly for you.  Please keep checking in with us.  I think about you a lot
  • oh C! I have been thinking about you and praying so much. I hope you find some peace and that this move will help you.

    Please don't leave the board though, and definitely keep us posted! 

  • It sounds like you're making the right decision.

    Even though you won't be living in Upstate NY, you're still one of us, so remember we're all here for you!

  • You have to do what is right for you.  I agree with Two also, if you can't go there right now, then put stuff in storage.  You are so strong!
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  • My heart goes out to you and I agree it will be easier to be around family...

    I would be glad to come out and help in whatever way I can with the move/transition...I am off two days a week and have a lot of weekends free...just ask!

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  • I think I would feel the same way.   :-(
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  • As the other girls already have said, you are so strong and an amazing woman. I can not imagine going through all that you have and are still going through now! I would want to do the same thing you are. Family is so important to have nearby in tough times! Is there anyone that could help you to go through all his belongings...or at least be by your side in case you need a sholder to lean on while you're doing it!

    You continue to be in my T & P! As LadyRed said hopefully you'll stay on our board or at least pop on once in a while!

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