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Pregnant girls- Are you doing "God Parents?"
When my BFF was pregnant this was a hot topic for them. They are both not religious, but there was this pressure from mostly her H's family to name God Parents and have their baby christened. They opted not to, but his family still asked a million times IF they were going to choose then who would they choose? Ha ha ha. I think it was more like his family wanted to know who they trusted most I guess. Is anyone doing God Parents and if so how did you decide who it would be?
Re: Pregnant girls- Are you doing "God Parents?"
Nope. We're both atheists, so god parents don't apply for us at all. I don't think we will get any pressure from his parents, and I know we won't from mine. While none of them are atheists, my parents know where our beliefs stand and respect that. I think that his will too.
That said, we are still going to need to choose legal gaurdians in case something happens. I have no idea who it will be.
That is exactly what we will do when we have a baby. We already know who we would choose...but we will talk to them more in depth once we actually have a LO.
We plan on having god parents. My sister will be our God mother. We also have her written into our will and life insurance that she will get the kids and any money or property we have if anything happens to the both of us.
I don't think so. Neither of us are religious either and his parents completely understand. My parents on the other hand will be unhappy about the whole thing. We don't plan to have our baby baptised or christened either. The religion topic is a scary one with my dad and step mom, I'd really prefer not to get into it with them.
That said, we will choose guardians in the event of our deaths. No idea yet who that will be.
That is a nice idea. We should come up with a nonreligious (for those of us who are) title for people like that.
I agree with this. I'd love the idea of godparents for my kids, but it really does't make sense in that manner since both FI and I (and my father, and his mother) are atheists. His parents would probably raise our children in the event that something happened to us, but it would be nice to have a title for a person in that type of role, you know? A non-family member who takes almost as much interest in your LO as you, and who is there to help guide them in life.
I am a lot closer with my godparents than I would have been if they didn't have that "title" and I just knew them as close friends of my parents. They used to take me out on "dates", we'd go get ice cream or see a movie when I was younger, and then as a teenager we'd go shopping or out to dinner. I absolutely loved it and would get really excited, its also nice to have that special attention, my sisters and I each have different godparents.
Although, for us the faith perspective of Godparents is important as well.
Not pregnant, but we won't do them. We are Catholic and will be baptizing, but I don't think Godparents are really necessary, nor are they a requirement.
IF we did choose, I'd probably go with our parents, my sister, or 1 BIL because those are the most spiritual people in our immediate families and I feel they could provide adequate spiritual guidance if needed.