I have a friend that I have known since elementary school. We were BFF for a long time, had our ups & downs throughout high school, and had a big falling out back in 2002. We recently reconnected and have dinner a few times a year, keep in touch through texting/FB, and she is invited to my baby shower next weekend.
We had dinner last week and she told me about her boyfriend of 5 years who basically just up & left her, completely out of the blue. They had just rented-to-own a house back in August. He came home one day the week after Thanksgiving and said "I can't do this anymore" and left. When they finally had a conversation about it he used every line in the book (It's not you, it's me, etc.). He basically fell off the face of the earth, as to where even his friends hadn't heard from him for 3 weeks at a time. She has not spoken to him in over a month, she has no idea where he has been staying, and he still has 1/2 of his stuff at their house.
Last night I saw him at the hockey game (not unusual, they used to go to games from time to time). He was with another girl. Obviously they are broken up so he's "allowed" to be with someone else, but I'm just not sure if I should mention it to her or not. This breakup completeley blindsided her so I don't know if telling her this would make it worse or help give her some sort of closure in the whole situation.
Thoughts?
Re: WWYD? (Kinda long)
I agree with Honeydew.
As someone who's been in your friend's situation in the past, I would suggest telling her, or at least asking her if she'd want to know something (she may not,but I doubt it). There's nothing worse than finding out another way, and then realizing that friends who you've spent time with knew and did nothing. It basically ended one of my friendships. I knew and understood the tough position she was in, but I just couldn't get over it.
Absolutely! This is a great idea.