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You would have been a little disappointed too, right?
I've had a rough few days at work this week, have had stress in other areas, and am preparing for a big interview tomorrow. I text my husband and said "it looks like it's going to be another one of those days." He said he was thinking about taking me out to dinner and suggested a restaurant. I got excited because I can't remember the last time we've gone on a date and we rarely spend money on things aside from what we need. But then I remembered he had just mentioned yesterday while we were at the grocery store that we had spent too much money this month, so I asked him if he were sure.
His answer? His family is celebrating his mom's birthday tonight by going to the restaurant he mentioned. *Hopes shatter* I said, well that's not really the same as you taking me out then. He said "well, I invited you."
Was it wrong of me to have expected a night alone with my husband?Do you think he really doesn't see the difference there?
Re: You would have been a little disappointed too, right?
No, I wouldn't have been disappointed. After a rough week, a night out would be exactly what I'd need. Then again, I love my H's family, so it would be a treat for me.
Something tells me that you're disappointed because you don't want to spend the evening with his family. He never said the word "date." You assumed it would be just the two of you. Maybe he could have been clearer in how he asked you, but I dont' see the reason for being disappointed.
He said he was thinking about taking me out to dinner and suggested a restaurant.
100% totally misleading. I'd be disappointed, too, not because I don't like DH's family, but because there's a world of difference between a quiet, romantic dinner with your husband, and a loud meal with his entire family.
But look at it this way- at least you two don't have to cook and clean up the kitchen tonight.
I don't think you got your hopes up if he said he was thinking about taking you out for dinner. How is that assuming or concluding? I think he mislead you. However, I think you are upset/dissapointed by it because you had a rough day. Don't be passive aggressive about it. Tell him when he said he was thinking about taking you out you were expecting a dinner with just the two of you, not with his family. Explain you've had a difficult day and if you don't feel like going out with him and the family, he should understand.
I would have interpreted "take you out to dinner" to be a date; my husband would likely have said "go out to dinner with my family" if that were the situation at hand. I would have been a little disappointed, too; even though I enjoy spending time with my in-laws, if I had been excited for a date, this would have felt like a little bit of a let down.
However, I would just shake it off and enjoy the evening. I liked one of the PP's suggestions of getting dessert on your own afterward so you two can have a little alone time.
That is totally misleading, and yes, I would've been disappointed. But I really can't stand dealing with my in-laws so maybe I'm a little jaded on the topic. Anyway, I'd just tell your husband you got your hopes up thinking maybe the two of you were going to have a romantic evening together and see what he says... maybe he'll take the hint and take you out (privately!) next week.
I completely agree!
"I text my husband and said "it looks like it's going to be another one of those days."
If my husband texted me this, I would want to roll my eyes.
In all honesty, he did mislead you. You should just go and try to have fun!
I kind of see your view. At first it seems its gonna be a date night to cheer you up. Then it is just a convient coincidence that he was going to go out with his family anyway. I mean, I probably wouldn't get mad at him, but I can see why you might feel disappointed.