Your opinion Tacky or Not

sala · January 2010

So I got an invite to a baby shower, for someone I don't know all that well. Friends but not super close. Standard Invite- location, date, time etc. Well then there was an insert saying "Feel free to bring your favorite dessert or appetizer that you like to make"

I've been to plenty of parties where you bring a dish, but I find it odd to be invited to a shower where you bring something. It just struck as very odd. In my opinion if you are hosting a shower, you take care of things like that.

laceysmom82 · January 2010

I don't really see a problem with it. But, I sort of do expect the food to be provided, however...I almost always ask if I can bring anything or help in any way when I call to RSVP.

KatieBride06 · January 2010

in some party cases i think its ok, but not for a shower.

terpbrideinnc · January 2010

For whatever reason, I always hesitate to classify things as tacky b/c I feel like the way many events are put together can be regional, but this does seem kind of tacky. Showers are the one event that I do not offer or expect to bring food as an attendee. ETA: I guess if I knew the host well, I'd probably offer.

sala · January 2010

KatieBride06:

in some party cases i think its ok, but not for a shower.

That's me too. Most parties I go to we bring a dish of some sort. I just find it odd for the shower.

AletheaP · January 2010

I think it's definitely odd. I mean, you're already bringing a gift, typically food or snacks and drinks are provided.

LilacStar11 · January 2010

AletheaP:
I think it's definitely odd. I mean, you're already bringing a gift, typically food or snacks and drinks are provided.

Agreed. Usually if it is a gift giving event, the food is provided.

Also, it seems like this is a distant friend. If you were a very close friend, I would say what is the big deal, but the fact that this goes out to ALL guests seems slightly tacky to me.

517butterfly · January 2010

LilacStar11:
AletheaP:
I think it's definitely odd. I mean, you're already bringing a gift, typically food or snacks and drinks are provided.
Agreed. Usually if it is a gift giving event, the food is provided.
Also, it seems like this is a distant friend. If you were a very close friend, I would say what is the big deal, but the fact that this goes out to ALL guests seems slightly tacky to me.

This!

derky17 · January 2010

517butterfly:
LilacStar11:

AletheaP:
I think it's definitely odd. I mean, you're already bringing a gift, typically food or snacks and drinks are provided.

Agreed. Usually if it is a gift giving event, the food is provided.

Also, it seems like this is a distant friend. If you were a very close friend, I would say what is the big deal, but the fact that this goes out to ALL guests seems slightly tacky to me.

This!

Tritto!

duke_girl · January 2010

AletheaP:
I think it's definitely odd. I mean, you're already bringing a gift, typically food or snacks and drinks are provided.

Ditto this. If I know the hostess well I'd probably offer to bring something anyway, but I think it's weird to have it right there on the invite like that.

murph04 · January 2010

Yes, it seems odd to me. In my experience, the hosts usually take care of the food at a shower.

CurbsideProphet · January 2010

while i find it a little tacky at least they are letting you know now. I was invited to shower, only to find out later that I had to pay for meal (shower was at a restaurant).

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