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So that was akward

So my dad calls me at work (weird) and was making small talk about our move this weekend, etc. And then all of a sudden he was like I don't want to put too much pressure on you but it woudl really mean a lot to me if you would name your baby after my father. What?! I just sat their in stunned silence for a minute. First of all not only are all four grandparents on my side deceased but they are on Jeremy's side also. Jeremy's father also passed away two years ago. How can I pick one grandfather to name him after? Also I am not a fan of the name. For some weird reason I feel like I am going to cry now. I feel like it puts me in a really uncomfortable position and my dad will be upset. I just called MH and he said we could use it as a middle name but I don't want to upset my mom who was really close to her father too. I really wanted to use my middle name for our son (which is my mom's maiden name) but I don't want my dad to be upset. We thought about also using my dad's first name as our son's middle name (MH was not close to his dad at all and is very close to my dad), it sounds kind of odd with our last name though.

 I know in the end it is our decision, but I hate that I am such a people pleaser and feel like I am going to feel guilty no matter what. Sorry I just needed to get that all out. Thanks for reading.

Re: So that was akward

  • Anytime someone precedes a statement with:

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     I don't want to put too much pressure on you but...

    it means the statement is going to put a ton of pressure on the recipient. Sad

    You and Jeremy name that baby boy whatever you want.  Your dad will deal with it.  Besides... you're not THE ONLY ONE having a baby in your family.  Did your sister get this same speech? Hmm

  • Thats the thing Paula! I called my sister after and she said he never said anything to her. I can think of one of two reason why, either he knows MH is a softie and my BIL isn't so he though Jeremy would just agree to it OR My sisters daughters middle name is my grandmother on my mother said (who we were all really close to before she passed) and my dad thinks it's his turn now.
  • Sorry... not his baby, not his naming rights. I'm sorry he laid the "no pressure" guilt trip on you, Jo, but you guys chose what you think is best.  After all... you're the ones who'll have to deal with him coming home crying his eyes out if he gets beat up by a bully for having a crappy name. (I really hope you see the sarcasm in that statement. Sad)
  • I know your right, I just wish he hadn't even said anything because now I have guilt! And my dad never says I love you to me (he just not very emotional) and when we were getting off the phone he was all like i love you which made me feel even worse!
  • If I were you I wouldn't even talk to him about it again, name the baby what you want and if he asks simply say "I had 2 grandfathers.  Jeremy had 2 grandfathers.  we couldn't simply name our son after one so we decided not to name him after any of them."
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  • Yeah my mom said to just not bring it up for awhile and hope it drops it. Thats a really good way to put it Mandy, thank you!
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