May 2009 Weddings
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Baby is Seriously on the Brain
Anyone else thinking more and more about having a baby?
DH and I decided to enjoy our first year of marriage and then we would start trying. As we get closer to that 1 year mark, it is becoming all I can think about. If we weren't in such limbo about what will be happening with DH's school/work situation, we would probably just start trying now.
In the meantime, any suggestions on how to get baby OFF the brain?
Re: Baby is Seriously on the Brain
When I want to get it off my mind I think of the things we have coming up that I don't want to be pregnant or have a baby for. We are going to Mexico in May and Vegas in August, and I think my sister is going to have a destination wedding is 2011. I would like to enjoy all of those things baby free : )
Like Chrissy said, think about all the things you'll be giving up while pregnant. It's not like you just can't drink. I'm so tired all the time. We have a Christmas party to go to this weekend and I'm already complaining that it doesn't start until 9:00. I'm only going to be able to be there for an hour or two before I have to go home and crash! Oh, and if that doesn't do it for ya, just go check out a local early learning center and ask how much they charge per month
I can't speak for anyone else, but pregnancy is a lot harder than I thought it was going to be (but it's still totally worth it!). You have the rest of your life to have kids, enjoy being able to do what you want when you want for awhile!
The pp gave very sound advice. I can only add that I kick the BOTB by babysitting someone's kids. I'm quickly reminded that while they are adorable, they can be terrors and that about does it for a little while!
I know what you mean Pallie. We are waiting a year as well (halfway there). I have my annual gyno appointment in early January so I am going to ask him a lot about TTC and getting ready for it which means I've been thinking about it more. Plus I have a friend who has been married for a few years and is just starting to TTC so I've been talking with her about it. But at the same time, I like our routine and I like that we can enjoy being married and living together just the two of us (plus one very fat cat
) so that helps keep baby off the brain. I was visiting the Getting Pregnant Board and the Bump sometimes have stopped because it only makes it worse.
I agree with Chrissy, think of what you want to do and think how would a baby fit? I'd never take a baby to Mexico or Vegas, or anywhere big.
Babysit. My MOH's daughter comes over a lot. Normally she is really good, last time she was a holy terror and that helped a TON. My MOH and I have talked a lot and she brought up good points. If you have a baby and need to run to the store for milk, you don't just grab the baby and leave. You get the diaper bag, bottles, formula [or breast milk, whichever you prefer], wipes, diapers, etc. In that time you could've just ran to the store and got the milk.
I've had a lot of people say to make sure you are ready, because once you have a baby, you can't go back.
Don't get me wrong, we both want one, but we both realize now isn't a good time. I mean my "home" board is the Getting Pregnant board so I read a lot of this. My car will be paid off next November [amen!] and we want to put more money in our e-fund and take a few trips first.
BNOTB is a fun board too, check it out
Trials & Adventures in Baby Making
Stuck in counting limbo.
SAIF always welcome!!
Fortune from UnderwaterRhymes: A new outlook brightens your image and brings new friends.
This! I completely agree! lol
I had BOTB bad a few months ago which surprised me. I didn't think it would hit me so hard after the wedding.
I'm doing better now and back to patiently waiting until the time is right. (I want to get my school loans paid off and we want to travel.) The thing that has helped me is thinking about the little things that would change. I'm a very punctual person and just thinking about how much longer it would take to get out the door with a baby helps me.
TTC #1 since 08/11 IUI#2 = BFP!
Thanks for your help, ladies! I love being able to throw these things out there on the board and get advice/help from y'all. I'm glad that we have a positive board.
I think the baby is on the brain mostly because I am hoping and wishing for the time when we will be ready. Our lives are in limbo right now and I HATE it.
The money is what makes me know it isn't the right time. DH has a job but is hoping to be in medical school this fall. I only have a part-time job with the possibility of a full-time position if DH gets into medical school here. There is A LOT up in the air for us. So I know that it isn't right...doesn't make me want one any less, though.
I've always been around kids as a babysitter (even doing overnight/weekend babysitting jobs) and know that kids can be holy terrors but that doesn't bother me for some reason. The difficulty of pregnancy is something that deters me a little because I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and don't know how my body will handle the pregnancy.