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I've come to the conclusion... (long)
...that I've been lying to myself and everyone else about the wedding. I honestly can say now that I hated how my wedding turned out.
You know how when you get back everyone asks "how was it?!" and for some strange reason I felt obligated to say "Great!" I know my wedding was almost 4 months ago, but ever since then I regretted how it turned out. There were some good moments. For instance, the actual 15 minute ceremony was okay. And I had a great time doing our TTD, but it still didn't go like I had planned. But the part I'm really upset about were the moments after the wedding.
Instead of getting to take all the really fun pictures around the ship in my dress we spent two hours trying to track down DH's cousin who I had given my SeaPass to since she wasn't where she was told to be to give me back my SeaPass. And after finding another person in our party who tells me that she'd given it to my MOH. So DH and I spent our first two hours married wandering around the ship looking for the wrong person and missing the opportunity to take pictures with everyone!
We spent a good fortune to bring our own photographer for the trip and I feel like I didn't get to take the pictures I wanted (or paid for) because of his cousin. Don't get me wrong, I really like her as a person but I honestly don't know if I will ever be able to forgive her for ruining my wedding day.
I know I should just get over it since there's nothing I can do about it, but it still bothers me.
Re: I've come to the conclusion... (long)
I am so sorry that your wedding didn't go as planned. I know I have a hard time myself saying it was great, and a lot of people notice my hesitation.
This is how I look at it now, I am married to the best person in the world for me, and I wouldn't change that. Am I fully happy how everything turned out, not a chance, but I still am the luckiest girl for having the man of my dreams now my husband.
Ask me if I would do it the same, not a chance in he!!
Honestly, I was in TEARS two days after our wedding when we first looked at our wedding pics. DH and several of the guests whined through the entire picture portion and we didn't take half of the pics on the must-take list (like, I didn't get a pic with just my Mom and just my Dad and just my Brother, DH, either). However, now I barely even look at my wedding pics anymore and really don't miss them. It does suck that you had to do that, though. And it's very annoying that your cousin and MOH didn't do what they were supposed to.
Anyway, if you want and still have your dress I would recommend finding a local photog who will do a TTD shoot with you. DH and I did a group TTD shoot with a handful of local photographers 6 months after our wedding and got some more great pics to add to our collection. And it was really fun to put my dress back on and see DH in his clothes, too.
*Hugs* I don't have any advice, but I'm so sorry you feel that way about your wedding.
Oh man, Julie... I'm so sorry to hear that.
Have you spoken to either of these girls about how you feel about what happened that day? Maybe getting it off your chest would help.
Either way, major ((((((hugs))))))
Sorry, I should have explained what a SeaPass is and why it's so important. Your SeaPass is your EVERYTHING while on the ship - it's the key to your room, your charge card, your proof that you're a sailing guest. And if you bought anything "extra" in advance it's on your SeaPass. Plus, you can't get off or back on the ship without it.
When his cousin wasn't where she was suppose to be to give me back my SeaPass I was instantly in sheer panic mode because I felt almost helpless at that point. If I would have got separated from Chris at any time there was no way I could get back in our room.
Thank you for letting me 'tell' someone. I do think it's helped me get over it a bit knowing that someone else has heard how I felt. And I appreciate everyone sharing their experiences. I wouldn't change marrying Chris for a single day, but I do wish I never would have given my SeaPass to Kari that day.