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Plastic Surgery Regrets
So I mentioned before that we had houseguests for almost 2 weeks . . . it was a big mess.
My cousin has had a "cleft nose" since birth. To tell the truth I had NEVER noticed it before she pointed it out. She had one nostril that was bigger than the other, and a hardly noticable scar above her upper lip. My cousin said it was a big deal to her and affects her self-confidence, so we gave her our full support.
She went to a plastic surgeon here in OC that specializes in this type of birth defect. He took cartilige from her ribs to build up her left cheekbone (which he said was lower than the other side) and then dealt with her nose.
After almost two weeks of having my cousin here because she lives 4 hours north of us . . . . and her mom stayed here, which was horrible . . . she now regrets having the procedure. She says her nose doesn't look that much different, and her cheekbone that he built up is actually sliding down. She is really upset about this and feels like she wasted 10k.
I know part of the problem is her mom . . . she is a horribly negative person . . . but its so hard to build her confidence up from 240 miles away. She has been upset over this for a few days now, but still hadn't called the surgeon about it. I told her last night to stop worrying unless she was going to call and address her concerns . . . sitting at home and stewing in her misery isn't a good idea.
I'm so frustrated! I'm about to send DH up there to give her a bit of a pep talk . . . he does really well with this kind of thing . . . and I'm so worried about her getting depressed now.
Does anyone here have experience with plastic surgery? Is this something that might be normal and will get better with time?
Re: Plastic Surgery Regrets
Man that sucks.
Doesnt it usually take more then 2 weeks to see the full results? She really does need to call the surgon. If something is wrong he needs to correct it!
That was really sweet of you to let them stay with you for 2 weeks.
It's hard to say. I am one of the only one of my friends who has NOT gone under the knife, so I have seen a lot of reactions. Some people LOVE themselves afterwards. I have noticed that this is very few though. Most of the people I know feel that it didn't "fix" them the way that they wanted it to, and some thought that they were just fine before (my sister falls into this last category).
I think that it's hard because you really get a hard sell from the plastic surgeon, and they do a really good job of pointing out your flaws and how you would be "better" if they were fixed. The truth of the matter though is that is seems that very rarely will undergoing the knife make you actually feel better about yourself. If you have good self esteem I really think that it comes from someplace much deeper. Plus, you have to realize that she canged her face, that has GOT to be hard to deal with emotionally. You are no longer the same person when you look in the mirror. I just can't imagine doing that. Again, a lot of people love it, but I have found that in most people it leads to more since they still don't feel "perfect".