Not looking forward to this weekend...

vannakay · January 2010

Im scared Sh!tless about this weekend. My stomach is in knots and all I seem to do is think about everything. It will be a week tm I havent talked to him....I dont know how much more I can handle.

This just seems like a bad week for Novembies in general....

Rachel2315 · January 2010

Be strong - you deserve an answer to this. Yes your marriage is important but so are YOU, so look out for yourself.

LorelaiOctoberBride · January 2010

I hope things are better than you think they might be! Tons of T&P that it will go well for you...

I'd feel the same way... I would!

vannakay · January 2010

I feel as Sunday draws closer it will be even worse..... Im sooo scared.

JackandCassie · January 2010

Rachel2315:
Be strong - you deserve an answer to this. Yes your marriage is important but so are YOU, so look out for yourself.

This. Be an advocate for yourself.

LorelaiOctoberBride · January 2010

You know... I was single for 38 years. It took me waayyy too long and too many bad relationships to realize I was worth something. I was worth WAY more than what I was letting people tell me. I was with some really crappy guys who took more than they gave. Not saying this is happening with you and your DH, but YOU are the important one here-like Rachel says. You deserve the best and, if this is a one-sided thing, you need to do what is right for you.

T&P that you are SUPER STRONG when you finally do get to talk and you stand up for what is right for YOU.

Sierra&Lee · January 2010

You are in my T&P sweety!!

You deserve answers so get them.

And don't forget we're here for you!!

vannakay · January 2010

Thank you....

Im basically at work, sick to my stomach, my chest hurts. I just really cant belive this. You would think in the week I have had to process this I would somewhat understand it.... But I cant. I miss him more than words can describe. ugh. this hurts

kdonedizzle · January 2010

I know this is WAY immature and totally not the best or right solution but I would leave and let him wonder what the hell I was doing and where I was. A little dose of his own damn nasty medicine.

::Do not do this because this is very bad advice::

vannakay · January 2010

Karrey31:

I know this is WAY immature and totally not the best or right solution but I would leave and let him wonder what the hell I was doing and where I was. A little dose of his own damn nasty medicine.

::Do not do this because this is very bad advice::

lol.... But I really dont think I matter to him. He hasnt talked to me in a week. I have sent him a text the past two days and have gotten ignored. He is still eating and partying and having a good ol time in VA. While im here.... Numb and sick. How do you do this to someone you love?

cmk1108 · January 2010

Rachel2315:
Be strong - you deserve an answer to this. Yes your marriage is important but so are YOU, so look out for yourself.

This exactly! We're thinking of you!

kdonedizzle · January 2010

vannakay:
Karrey31:

I know this is WAY immature and totally not the best or right solution but I would leave and let him wonder what the hell I was doing and where I was. A little dose of his own damn nasty medicine.

::Do not do this because this is very bad advice::

lol.... But I really dont think I matter to him. He hasnt talked to me in a week. I have sent him a text the past two days and have gotten ignored. He is still eating and partying and having a good ol time in VA. While im here.... Numb and sick. How do you do this to someone you love?

He is still living it up because he knows exactly where you are and exactly what you are doing. Some men have this idea in their heads that they can get away with anything because they know that the woman wotn do anythign about it. Sounds like he has got you right where he wants you. You are his wife, and he can do whatever he wants because he knows that you will still be there when he gets home. I've been in a similar situation (only not married) and he would do this to me over and over again. The day I let it go and decided to live my life the way it was going to be best for me, it hit him like a ton of bricks. Rolls became reversed.

Like I said, don't follow that advice because you are in a marriage and you having equally as childish behavior is not the answer but I definatly think gaining some independance and carrying on with or without him would be a great thing for you. Learning how to be strong and happy alone, is very very important. Even if you aren't alone and stay married, it sounds like he is searching for some space and went about this a very bad way. Maybe it is just a clue that he wants you to be a little independant too? I could be way off so dont scold me if none of this really makes sense.

ilovedesi · January 2010

If I were in your place I would feel the same way as you do right now. But I think that the anger would over rule all once I saw him. I hope you are able to let him know how much you have been hurting for the past week and how completely unacceptable his behavior was. I hope you are also able to get some answers out of him for his unexplainable actions. Stay strong. ::HUGS::

vannakay · January 2010

This just insnt imagineable..... When he text me the day after the argument he said just to let him go on his trip..... That he needed space. That was hard to hear but I respected that. But he never said anything about making a decision while being there. I guess he discovered that there is life beyond being married, and being responsible. He can do what he wants, when he wants....He put on FB that he was 23 and he was ready to start his life ane be happy (this was last sat) So you see where I have been drawing my conclusions from.

jweat013 · January 2010

ilovedesi:
If I were in your place I would feel the same way as you do right now. But I think that the anger would over rule all once I saw him. I hope you are able to let him know how much you have been hurting for the past week and how completely unacceptable his behavior was. I hope you are also able to get some answers out of him for his unexplainable actions. Stay strong. ::HUGS::

Ditto this!

kimmyalc · January 2010

Karrey31:
vannakay:
Karrey31:

I know this is WAY immature and totally not the best or right solution but I would leave and let him wonder what the hell I was doing and where I was. A little dose of his own damn nasty medicine.

::Do not do this because this is very bad advice::

lol.... But I really dont think I matter to him. He hasnt talked to me in a week. I have sent him a text the past two days and have gotten ignored. He is still eating and partying and having a good ol time in VA. While im here.... Numb and sick. How do you do this to someone you love?

He is still living it up because he knows exactly where you are and exactly what you are doing. Some men have this idea in their heads that they can get away with anything because they know that the woman wotn do anythign about it. Sounds like he has got you right where he wants you. You are his wife, and he can do whatever he wants because he knows that you will still be there when he gets home. I've been in a similar situation (only not married) and he would do this to me over and over again. The day I let it go and decided to live my life the way it was going to be best for me, it hit him like a ton of bricks. Rolls became reversed.
Like I said, don't follow that advice because you are in a marriage and you having equally as childish behavior is not the answer but I definatly think gaining some independance and carrying on with or without him would be a great thing for you. Learning how to be strong and happy alone, is very very important. Even if you aren't alone and stay married, it sounds like he is searching for some space and went about this a very bad way. Maybe it is just a clue that he wants you to be a little independant too? I could be way off so dont scold me if none of this really makes sense.

Karrey - You took the words right out of my mouth!

T&P's are with you that everything works out for the best, whatever that may be.

Sierra&Lee · January 2010

Karrey31:

I know this is WAY immature and totally not the best or right solution but I would leave and let him wonder what the hell I was doing and where I was. A little dose of his own damn nasty medicine.

::Do not do this because this is very bad advice::

I accually think this is not that bad of advise. Maybe not leaving and going to your mothers so to say but just be out and about all day Sunday and not be there when he gets home. Maybe be at the grocery store or go get a manicure get your hair cut or colored. You may not feel like doing that but he will notice when you get home that you were just going about your life while he was off being stupid. Plus a little retail therapy never hurt anybody!! Wink We're here for you.

11.29.08 · January 2010

Sierra&Lee:
Karrey31:

I know this is WAY immature and totally not the best or right solution but I would leave and let him wonder what the hell I was doing and where I was. A little dose of his own damn nasty medicine.

::Do not do this because this is very bad advice::

I accually think this is not that bad of advise. Maybe not leaving and going to your mothers so to say but just be out and about all day Sunday and not be there when he gets home. Maybe be at the grocery store or go get a manicure get your hair cut or colored. You may not feel like doing that but he will notice when you get home that you were just going about your life while he was off being stupid. Plus a little retail therapy never hurt anybody!! We're here for you.

I completely agree with Sierra and a lot of these other ladies! Take care of yourself hun, you deserve it!

vannakay · January 2010

AND....... to make things ever worse. I was applying for a new office job and pretty much go it. All I needed was to take the drug test. Which is kinna hard when you dont hardly get a lunch break....... I went to get it done today and I went to the wroing place. I tried to call them and no one answered. Then after my break was over he calls and tells me that I has taken to long to get the test done and he cant hire me now. WTF? He said the only way was to walk out today and get the test done..... I effin give up!

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