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No o's with husband
Hi ladies, this is my first time posting on here but i love to snoop. The honest answers on here have helped me alot. I've finally worked up the courage to place my first post! I cannot seem to orgasm with my husband, not oral, foreplay or sex. nothing! The only I can orgasm is, well, by myself. Even when I play with my clitoris during sex i can't seem to O. We have been together for 4 years and i could number it on two hands how many times i've orgasmed during sex. any suggestions or is there anyone else out there like this?
Re: No o's with husband
Hey, I can't offer any great advice simply because I am in the same boat. My only difference is that I can orgasm during oral, but I never have been able to to during sex. I have come very close, and just keep on trying new things. The thing that has worked the best so far is during foreplay, I use my little vibrator, and I've come closer to almost getting there. I don't know how to make it happen though.
ANYWAYS, you're definitely not alone! I've read many places that only like 70% ((I forget exact percentage)) of women can regularly orgasm during sex ... unfortunately I'm not one of them.
You put up with this for 4 years and you haven't conveyed this info to your H??? He's not going to be too terrifically happy you never confided in him.
I suggest you rediscover masturbation. Then you show him what makes you feel good.
My H is great because he realized how hard it was for me to hit the O during sex. In two years it has probably been less than ten times unless I use a vibrator. H understands this is not any shortcoming of his. The length of time I need to have sex for and the length of time before I start "drying up" don't coincide with each other, plus I start getting really sore when we go for more than an hour.
What we do is keep a small put powerful vibrator by the bed (in the nightstand drawer) and so when he or I want the vibrator one of us can get it. If you're shy about this, let me tell you something: HE reaches for it more often than I do!
Well she didn't say that she hasn't told her H about this?!?
But I agree, you need to show him exactly what it takes.
I finally told my husband just last week and he did not take it very well. he blames himself which is totally not the case. hes the only person i've ever slept with so i had no other experience and i thought that it was normal. it was only recently that i learned that sex could be differnt. its just nice to know that i'm not the only one and that there are things that i can do to help out! thanks so much for everyones help!
I finally told my husband just last week and he did not take it very well. he blames himself which is totally not the case. hes the only person i've ever slept with so i had no other experience and i thought that it was normal. it was only recently that i learned that sex could be differnt. its just nice to know that i'm not the only one and that there are things that i can do to help out! thanks so much for everyones help!
I've never Oed during intercourse, unless it's been via manual stimulation while having sex. And I've had more than one partner.
What works for us is to have sex, DH Os, and then he manually stimulates me until I O, too. I sometimes masturbate while he watches, too, which he loves. It works for us.
If you can't come even when you masturbate with your DH around it sounds to me like you might have some sort of mental block.
GL!
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
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