personal issue

AmandaJ53 · January 2010

Let me just say that I am not one to put my personal business on the computer or anywhere else for that matter. My problem is that this particular issue is really bothering me...and I'm the only one of my closest friends who is married. So, I don't feel I have anyone but you guys to talk to about this...

My question: I know it has only been like 4 months, but for the past two weeks I have started not wanting to be intimate with my husband. I love him, and when we kiss I still get light-headed like the first time we kissed. But lately, I don't even want to do the other stuff. And the worst part, I don't know why I am feeling this way! It's starting to really upset me.

Please tell me your honest opinion. Am I just WAY over reacting?

k_swiss82 · January 2010

I'm sorry you're going through this. If your feelings for him haven't changed then is there something else in your life that is bothering you? I know that when I'm stressing about things (money, my parents health, etc.) it completely turns me off. Sometimes I don't think that my troubles are bothering me that bad, but it still affects me. Also, and this is my personal opinion, winter always puts me in such a blah mood. Between the cold, the darkness and the snow I don't feel like doing the things that I usually do. Nothing interests me, etc. I know how you feel, I am going through something similar to what you're going through. Last night I finally sucked it up and threw DH a bone. (no pun intended

) lol. I know that for me atleast, it always comes back. It's just a lull. HTH!

AmandaJ53 · January 2010

Thanks K. I guess I pretty much knew that...but I needed other people to tell me too. I just thought that after 4 months it wouldn't be like this. There is a lot going on. I know I'm having a baby issue right now. I've been hit by the baby fever (lol!) but we know that we need to wait a couple of years before we bring a child into the world. Plus work and grad school...and like you said family, money, etc. I'm pretty sure that's what it is too. 4 months just seems kinda soon.

krc18 · January 2010

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. Sometimes the more we focus on what we feel we should be doing and the harder we are on ourselves, the worse we make it. Cut yourself some slack. Everyone goes through lulls in there relationship and there is no written rule that says if you are a newlywed you have to be doing and feeling x y and z. Sometimes life gets in the way, people feel down, we get busy, stressed, etc. I just went through this this past month. For me I was sick for 3 weeks and really stressed and to be honest before I knew it a month had gone by without, you know...but then I got back healthy and our finances perked up and just like that everything went back to normal. It will get better, and remember we are always here if you need us!

munkii · January 2010

You're definitely not alone in this. He'll have these bouts too. No big deal, promise

Cipolla2Be · January 2010

Def. not alone. It happens!

kelnyc · January 2010

This is sooo common. Nothing to worry about unless it continues for a long period of time. Could be a medication you're on, or like pp said, the stresses of life taking your mojo away.

AmandaJ53 · January 2010

Thank you guys!!! Glad I have all of you to talk to!

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