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Friend with cancer
Hi Ladies,
I have a friend who's been fighting cancer for a few years and it has now spread to her spine. The doctors have given her only a few months (she doesn't know this). Has anyone been in a similar situation? Is it weird to send "thinking of you" flowers? I am totally at a loss and don't know what to do or what would be appropriate. I hope to make a trip to see her once the m/s subsides (I don't think I could do hours in a car right now). 
Thanks for any advice or insight.
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Re: Friend with cancer
I think even if she doesn't know you could send flower/edible arrangement/cookies or something and just say "Hope you have a great week!" or something like that. She knows that she has cancer and I'm guessing she knows it has spread?
So...I'm curious...the medical employee is curious actually. How is it that you guys all know the time frame but not her?
I think sending "thinking of you" flowers or maybe a gift/goddie bag with things she likes -- maybe chocolates, a gift certificate to a favorite restaurant, DVDs or movie passes, etc.? -- would be nice.
Where I work, we have a similar situation with a coworker who's fighting a return of cancer that has spread to the bone. This past summer she and her husband and child went on vacation, and a lot of people in the office pitched in a little money for them to use there along with a goodie bag for the flight. So if you have a lot of mutual friends, pitching in for something bigger might be an option.
The Dr. told her family and best friend the time frame in the waiting area. Her sister then called a friend of ours in Austin and said to let her closer friends know, but said the family is not telling T. If it were me, I'd want to know, but it's not my decision.
i was wondering too... seems strange!! i'd pissed if my family knew and didn't tell me!
i'm sorry you're friend is going through that. lots of t&p's. i'm not sure what an appropriate thing to do is... i'm not much help!
I understand. My friend's 35. I have no explanation for why they're keeping this from her.
she may prefer not to know and maybe let everybody know that? who knows...best of luck to her though!
I can't imagine that cookies, flowers, magazines, lotions, or whatever wouldn't be appreciated.
There is also this service you might want to let her know about (it says chemo, but I would check to make sure, surely she would qualify):
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