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I told him
I told M tonight about the night of the accident. I completely lost it as soon as I started telling him. He gave me a big hug and told me he was very proud of me and that what I did was a good thing, that what I did was right. He's taking me to the services tomorrow. He thinks that it might help me. I don't know, I don't even know if it's our place to go, but he insists. I'll admit I do feel a bit better having gotten it off my chest. I told him all I'll be able to do tomorrow at the service is apologize, he said I have nothing to be sorry for. I just can't get it out of my head, the feeling that I lied to the poor kid, at least that's how I still feel, even though ANYONE would have said those same things, if the shoe were on the other foot I wouldn't want someone telling me different. Like I said in pp, I just have never been put in that position and it just made me have all the more respect for people that do that everyday for a living and have been able to block out the emotional aspect of it. I would have never made it as a doctor.
I also want to thank you all for your kind words, you really did help me to feel better about it. You're all amazing and I'm so thankful to have each of you in my life and I truly hope I am meant to met each of you in person someday (reason I vote next GTG should be Boston bound, lol).
Re: I told him
I am so glad you told M and I knew that he would react the way he did. He is proud of you because you did a really good thing and I think that going to the services tomorrow will help you get a little closure for this crazy event that you were just thrown into without warning.
I still think you did an amazing thing, some people would not even have done what you did (go over to the kid in the first place). You are brave and you did the right thing. Stop beating yourself up.
This! You are an AWESOME person! Let us know how you feel after the services! You really don't need to apologize either, but do what makes you feel best when you are there!
Agreed! I'm so proud that you told M, and knew he'd be as supportive as he was. You did such an amazing thing.
Sheri - Yesterday was crazy busy so I am just now following up on all of this. Let me just say that all these women and so right, you did an amazing thing! Like you and PP said anyone else would have to him the same thing. I hope that the service brings some closure for you!
This!
So glad you told M. Also so glad re responded that way. You two are amazing people for doing what you did.
BTW - I'm all for a Boston GTG
I'm so happy you told him and now you can talk to him about this and have his complete support. I agree with M that you have nothing to be sorry for and that his parents would be happy that he was not alone. However, if it would make you feel better then you can say something tomorrow. Just see how you feel tomorrow and if you really want to go. Remember that you did so much more than most people would do.