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Maybe i'm not a real Novembie....
Wow ladies....
I haven?t been on much this week, we are having crazy computer server issues here...
I am honestly shocked to see everyone acting the way they are and ganging up on Hudsy....
This is not how the Novembies are ladies. I know we are not puppies and rainbows and can be honest with each other. That?s the only way I want it to be, if we can?t be honest with each other then we have nothing.
I consider you all friends...and friends don?t behave this way.
Yes, Hudsy brought some lame, very unnecessary drama to the board. And that WAS TOTALLY LAAAAME...
And she apologized and I thought we all moved forward from that.
If there has been some new thing that has happened that I missed then please fill me in on why there are now all of these PM's flying about and a bunch of other girls jumping on the Sheri disliking Hudsy train. That?s their beef. Not ours.
Hudsy actually contributes more then a few of the other girls...I don?t see them getting run off. Maybe not all of her posts are epic, maybe they are more fluffy...but who cares. Really?
Im not ok with the way the board is today/yesterday. It makes me really sad to see it like this.
I know that we all have our own personalities and some are much stronger then others...I know that some people have way more important things to say on here then others do, but its a freaken message board on the innerwebs...we have all gotten along for the past 2 years lets not let the wheels fall off now.
I just don?t like to see the posts saying Where is the ignore button, you need to eject yourself...and so forth.
Maybe I am out of line here. But I honestly do not want to contribute if this is the direction the board is going in...This very same thing happened on the knot on my local board and several private boards steamed from that drama. I know the Novembies are much bigger then that.
Re: Maybe i'm not a real Novembie....
Honestly, I missed the drama so I am totally lost as to what is going on. I mean I have caught up a little, but I guess I missed the original drama.
I have to agree with Agent about what happened on our local board, it sucked big time and I would hate to see that happen here too.
I didn't realize it was still an "issue" until today. I though the group had moved on...
I hope those that have a beef with others can just let it go and move on. Ignore them if that is what it takes.
Peaceful co-existence is all that can be expected nat times in such a diverse group.
TTC #1 13 cycles, CP 6/09, TTC #2 1 cycle
CDing, EP'd for 13 months for #1, BFing for #2
Pregnancy Hypertension - inductions at 39w, I grow big babies: DD was 9 pounds 1 ounce 22 inches, DS was 11 pounds even 22 inches - both vaginal deliveries
I respect your opinion but there are two sides to every story.
I have not received any PM's nor would I chose to dislike someone simply because I was asked to. I am a big girl, I make my own choices.
When it comes to Hudy, I would usually ignore her. She's just not my cup of tea. Nothing personal, can't really put my finger on it, but thats how I feel. I think she has a bit of growing up to do, thats all. Do I think her post calling Sheri out was taking it too far? YES! Was that the kind of behavior befitting a Novembie? HELL NO! Therefore, I would love to just find a way to ignore her from now on.
As for Vannakay . . . . don't get me started. I have not cared for her from the beginning when she said she was TTCing without telling her DH. That just rubbed me the wrong way. When everyone posted telling her that perhaps TTCing without including him was a bad idea, suddenly she posted about how he was on board and happy that she jumped the gun without him. I'm not buying it. Her posts just don't seem very honest.
I have always felt that the Novembies are honest with each other, sometimes brutally so. We have managed to become a closeknit group that can tell each other anything. The ladies on this board give sound advice and support each other through thick and thin . . . I love and respect them. Because of this, I would prefer to ignore VannaKay . . . simply because I feel that she is immature and dishonest . . . and I would prefer to not see her posts.
I have always loved our board for the spunk, honesty, comraderie, support and love that everyone shares. I do not take it lightly when I see such kindness being taken for granted. (Remember the Sarah thing??? I get my hackles up over the love from this board being misused.)
Many of the women on this board do not have a large group of girlfriends that they can turn to the way we can all turn to our fellow Novembies. I have friends, but none that I check up on daily and look forward to getting my daily fix. My Novembies mean the world to me, and I want to preserve this board.
Agent, I see where you are coming from and I hope you can see my side as well. We don't have to agree . . . sometimes its ok to just agree to disagree . . . but I don't want you to get the impression that this is some school yard bully bullsh*t.
You are right. And I don't think this is the direction of the board, so don't worry. I think the board was just trying to right itself. A lot of us have been biting our tongues as the board was spinning in a negative direction in case it went away on its own.
We got carried away with ourselves, but I think this speaks to the degree to which we were annoyed and worried about the energy that was taking over.
I assume it will work itself out now and we'll be back to happy supportive times.
I think this was it for me, too.
Thanks Agent.
This. This. THIS!!
I have missed some of the drama b/c I have been OOT and/or at work.
Thank you for the reminder to peacefully co-exist and be kind to one another. You don't have to like everyone, but you should attempt to be civil.
Like Katie, I have close friends, but none whom I get a daily fix from like I do from you girls. I don't want us to become a drama llama board- nor do I want our love and friendship to be misused.
Thank you, Agent! I was thinking about posting something like that budt did not have enough courage. Maybe cause I also get close to 0 responses to my occasional posts
If seriously, I was really upset for the last two days because of the drama that was started here. Our board is the best and the nicest, why turn it into this disgusting drama? I also thought that it was only one day and then Sheri would just let it go. I guess that Sheri just had a tough day and she decided to take it all on Hudsy. Anyway, it's just between them.
As far as Hudsy's posts, the last one was one of her best. She posted her comments to updates the girls had. I saw other people doing the same here. If you don't like her posts, just don't read them.
Speaking of really annoying posts by Vanna. I never responded because i don't believe a single word she is saying. Her posts are lame. She actually reminded me of that girl we had here a while ago, who lied to us that her friend came in and posted/talked to us on her behalf etc. Remember, she also had TTC issues? I think that Vanna is the same story.
Please, no drama, girls.
FYI you couldn't be more wrong. The only thing I'm going to say to this whole thing is I'm not the only one. I just happened to be the only one WILLING to open my mouth at the time.
I'm leaving it at that, but know that I am done biting my tongue when I feel the need to say something. If that gets me booted from here, then so be it.
I'm going to back up Sheri on this. She knew that she was not the only one on the board that was having issues with other posters. She was just the one that spoke up.
You know, I'm ashamed I didn't have the guts to do something yesterday. I'm grateful someone spoke up as I was considering it all evening long about doing it this am (as I rarely Nest in the eves). I am quite disturbed at what occurred the past day or so and thought we were the 'nice' group-or that's what we've considered ourselves in the past.
Maybe I'm too old for this-who knows. This 'even't might just be my reality check with my nesting-at least here. You do what you have to do, but one of the 'rules' is about harrassment. Don't believe someone-let it go. Don't like someone-ignore them. Don't like being on here, fine. I have sites I 'lurk' as I don't necessarily feel they are welcoming as I thought we were and really, I don't care.
Agent-thank you for doing something I wasn't ready to do yesterday.
I slept on this after letting it marinate overnight and this really bothers me. I respect what some of you are saying, I really do. But at the same time, I feel like what happened yesterday and the day prior is evident that these feelings are truthful and really there. Stuffing a sock in it for the sake of sunshine and rainbows is only going to cause this to rupture once again and I am afraid that we will have a board divided. Sure, you can ignore all day long but when someone comes on here and feels the need to reply to every.single.post.all.day.long. it gets old, and annoying and honestly, I dont think any of this would have happened if someone could turn it down just a knotch. We have proof that Hudy forces herself down peoples throat by some of her previous posts in regards to her coworkers. Now I am sure this is just me, but I dont want someone being nice to me just for the sake of being nice.
As for the "train", Agent, you are very far from the truth on that one. Sadly, there are many girls here that feel the same way about both of the two people that have been mentioned and some of them are just too nice for their own good to speak up publicly about it. Now sure, we could go on pretending we are still one big happy family but I feel as though the infection still exists and shortly, we will find a few girls not around anymore.
Yes, respect should be one of the things we strive for, and I think we have done well with that after these few years. MOST of us were around from the very beginning so we have a history together that we are all proud to be a part of. I don't want to see that go but I think telling people to keep their true feelings under wraps only leads to fake personalities and fake posts and that is something I personally would rather not be a part of.
As I am sure noone wants to feel like they are being ejected, I don't feel like being told to hide true feelings is fair either. That isn't what happens in real life and I don't think asking for it to happen here is a realistic expectation. Did the drama get out of hand yesterday? Yes, but again, I think that was simply the eruption of all that has been held inside for so long.
Just my two cents.
Im not asking people to stuff a sock in it. BUT there are ways to go about things, and I think the past 2 days things have not been handle the best way, or the most mature way that they could have been.
This is a public board and there are going to be people who are annoying or post wh0res, you just look over them. Thats all you can do. I thin kI only responded to one of VannaKays posts, because it was starting to annoy me...but whatever. No need to attack.
And if it bothers you (not you specificaly Karrey, the general You 'we") Then either ignore it or leave... It will break my heart if the board becomes divided or if a private board stems from this. But if we dont rally together, then thats the direction we are headed in.
I just have to say, Sheri didn't drop the first bomb. Sheri tried being nice and just ignoring some of the posts, etc . . . until she was personally attacked. I don't blame her nor do I think she was out of line for her response.
I am fine with whatever happens with the board . . . it would suck for it to split up, but at some point it is inevitably going to happen. This board has been a bright spot in everyone's days for a couple years now. I appreciate everything you girls have to offer . . . but I won't have Sheri made into the scapegoat for this situation either.
There were a lot of things that went into the building up of the animosity . . . not just that one incident between Hudy and Sheri.