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Anal sex
Since there have been questions about it today, I thought I would post something.
I have had enjoyable anal sex experiences. There have been occasions when it was uncomfortable. I am not going to say that the sensations of anal sex felt as good as vaginal penetration, but there was a wickedness to it that adds to the experience.
I usually was interested in having anal sex after having a good solid bowel movement. Enemas will work as well. Remember, anal sex will not look like it does in pornos. The women will do a couple of enemas in a row before performing, and they edit out anything unpleasant. Plus, it is unlikely that you will be able to take a hard pounding like a porn star.
Bluntly, there might be feces on your DH's member when you are done. If you use lube, you might even get some santorum. (kisses to you Dan Savage Fans!) But hey! If you have had some nice orgasms, who cares?!
Now, anal sex should be the big finish to the lovemaking. Do lots of sexy things before moving to anal. Get aroused and relaxed and have fun. Have him stimulate your anus with his fingers or tongue, if he is of a mind. Throw in an orgasm for yourself.
Now get side by side with your back to his front. This will give you control over the speed and depth of penetration. This is key to your enjoyment. Lube just a bit. Take his penis in your hand and guide him to your anal opening. Keep a firm grasp of him and back onto him. Lift your leg if it helps. Tell him that if he even thinks about moving, this fun will stop. Trust me...he will want it to continue. Keep him in your hand, push yourself onto him and move as fast or as slow as you want. Go as deep as you want controlling the depth with your fist to make sure you are taking only as much as you want. When you are comfortable, you can tell your DH that he can move. I would definitely throw in some clitoral stimulation to make it even better for you. Oh...and a bit of warning, cleaning up the ejaculate after he orgasms in your anus is even more messy than the vagina.
Remember NEVER NEVER NEVER switch from anal to vaginal intercourse without a heavy cleanup. You do not want harmful bacteria from your colon in your vagina.
Make it clear to DH that he will only get to have anal sex with you if it doesn't hurt (too much), so he better be a good boy. Now, if it hurts, stop. No sense in giving you a bad feeling about it. If he gets annoyed that you wanted to stop, tell him that he will have to take a dildo the size of his penis into his own anus to show that "it doesn't hurt" if he whines.
Re: Anal sex
Good advice!
What kind of a man whines about anal sex? This made me think of Enclarid, the girl with the husband who kept pounding her butt eventhough she was crying.
OMG, how scary that must have been for her. I know it can be very uncomfortable, what a ***. That just made my stomach turn.
It is because they see this stuff in some porn - especially buttseks porn. I personally have a problem with "the gaping hole" porn - where they show the female's gaping orifice in a closeup after the man has pulled out. Really sends the message that a woman is merely a series of holes.
Those women have such a lack of self respect, it's really quite nauseating.
I've never taken it up the tailpipe, but I've heard people recommend condoms, not only for the cleanup, but to catch the semen (since ejaculate up the bum comes back out like diarrhea). I can't think of anything less sexy than bolting for the bathroom with spermarrhea.
That's probably the best word combo I have ever heard!! hahaha
Ahhhhaaaahhahahaha! lol!
How horrible!
I have found most men I know do hint about it and they either want to try it if they already have. I am glad I did try it though, it did take some communication but in the end I really did enjoy it.
Be gone boring troll.
ewwww...
Also who brags about their man being "big"???
hmmm...
I gotta say it, don't go ass to mouth. haha.
Lube is your friend. Make nice with the Astro-Glide. If you think you have to much, chances are good you have just enough!
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I totally agree, either use a condom or don't let him finish in you. It's gross and you'll be in the bathroom a lot for about 24 hours. Trust me. Don't do it!
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lol, after he whined many times for it I did just that. Sure changed his ideas on the subject.