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Broke=Sad
I don't know how to tell my wonderful dear friend that I can't make it to her vow renewal in Solvang because I am broke. She will understand, but very few people are making it. I think this is depressing her. She sends these semi-desperate Evite updates with cheap hotels. It's in a month.
Or should I credit card it and go? It will cost about $500 including gas, etc. I have all these looming house expenses weighing on my mind. I've already doubled our CC bill in the last month (because of that medical bill.)
I'm hoping I can pay everything off when we get our tax refund, but idk if it will be enough. I really could use the little getaway, too. And I doubt J will ever go to Solvang with me unless there's a good reason like this, and that place is so darned cute.
What to do...what to do...
Re: Broke=Sad
ITs a vow renewal...not a wedding...right???
If you are broke, dont go...Puttting it on CC is a bad idea. You ahve a baby, a hubs that may or may not have a job, and you have house buying in the near future which will come with costs...
If it were a wedding, then maybe....but if hse is a good friend she should understand.
$500 to attend a vow renewal? I say NO!
Personally, I believe that a vow renewal is a private affair meant for immediate family. (Parents, children, etc.) I can understand wanting your friends to be there, but in this economy planning an OOT renewal is not very smart.
You have goals that you want to reach for the better of your family. Do the smart thing and save that $500.
Like the others, I wouldn't do it. DH and I have lost a SUBSTANCIAL amout of our income over the past couple of years (like roughly half) and it sucks not to be able to do things like this. BUT we have been really strong and haven't put anything on credit cards when we were temped to, and I am very grateful for that. Trust me, when you get that house, you are going to want that $500 to decorate a lot more than you would have enjoyed that renewal ceremony.
BTW Solvang NEVER changes, so if you guys even go three years from now, it will be the same cutsey little village with windmills and candy shops on every corner.
I wouldn't spend $500 on a vow renewal for a non-immediate family member.
If it somewhere you'd want to vacation anyways and have the money already available (or can save it up by the time of the trip) then it would be fun to go...as long as it wasn't a financial burden.
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OMG!!! I just googled this place! How freaken cute!
I am now trying to talk DH into driving out to l.a. and taking a train up there! Maybe next fall!
I am with all the others, NO! The cost to go is the same $$$ a home inspection will cost you (and its coming in the very near future!).
Isn't that the place they went on The Girls Next Door?
This exactly. Don't add any more debt onto the CC that is not 100% necessary it will only add to the frustration.
Solvang is SO adorable. You have to go. And when you do, have the ebelskiver. They are like round pancakes and are so yummo. My grandma used to make them.
Anywho - thanks all for the voice of reason. J said the same thing. I didn't get to go to her wedding, and she was our officiant - So I just feel really bad about not going. Maybe we'll win the lotto before then?