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Tell me about your ILs...
How was adjusting to marrying into a whole new family?
Do you get along with DH's family? Does your MIL drive you crazy?
Tell me all the dirty truth!
Re: Tell me about your ILs...
How was adjusting to marrying into a whole new family? Well, it was an adjustment at first. For the first few years it was pretty good. Within the last year, it seems as though his mom and 2 sisters have turned crazier than they already were. Bottom line.....I'm 99% sure they are envious of us (those were DH's words). Perhaps that sounds snobish, but it isn't. Both of his sisters aren't married but both have kids. One of his sister's is 35 and the other is 28; they both act like 18 year old teenagers with their drama. His mom wishes she was married to his dad again (they're divorced). For the most part, they dislike me...for what reason...I have no clue.
Do you get along with DH's family? Fortunately, DH's opinion of his family is similar to mine. I am not fond his older sister (and sadly her 2 tween girls). His younger sister and I use to be pretty good friends and then she went batshit crazy. His mom started out pretty cool and has gone off the deep end. His dad.....I absolutely LOVE. (His parents are divorced.) His new stepmom.....she's ok in small doses; definitely more manageable than his mom.
Does your MIL drive you crazy? Crazy, as in she is crazy. She only calls DH when she needs something. When DH told her that we were expecting, her words were, 'Oh! Really? Is this something you wanted?' WTF??????????????????? Seriously? DH was livid and has only spoken to her twice since then. She then tried to change her tune the next time she spoke to him. She always puts on a fake front whenever she is around me and is nice to me, but deep down I don't really think she cares for me. I honestly don't care though.
I love my IL's!
It really hasn't been and adjustment with my IL's they live in another state as does my family. They are teachers and visit for a month each summer. I really enjoy that. Someone else to cook some nights. Free and stress free babysitters. By the time they go I am ready to have my house back. My family only takes a week to get me to that point.
We get along great, we his mother and I have a lot in common. I think after his 1st marriage they were a bit skeptical because he had not taken a lot of time in between getting divorced and when we starting dating. I think what ever concerns they had were legitimate. After getting to know me they were not worried anymore. They are fantastic sweet loving people.
No she has never driven me crazy.
I have absolutely no complaints about DH's family. I know that's rare though and it might be different if we lived closer to them. But I really can't say anything bad about them as they are really wonderful people. And they are very good to us.
Fortunately I have been blessed with awesome in laws. Our families live out of state as well though. But they don't meddle in our lives, they are genuinely concerned with our well being and love us and our relationship. We don't have any children yet though so I hope it doesn't change. My MIL can be a little over the top but DH is really good at keeping her in check and its fun for her to be a little dramatic at times. They are very giving and respectful of us.
I think my DH might have gotten the short end of the stick on the ILs part. Although mine are not crazy, my parents are divorced and both remarried and have some more baggage than the ILs. My parents both still love us and want to see us do well but its just a little more adjustment for my DH bc of some drama from the divorce, etc.
It wasn't much of an adjustment, thankfully. DH and I dated for almost 7 years before we got married, so I knew what I was in for
In fact, I lived with his mom and his step-dad for a few months without him prior to getting married (I was finishing up with school and he had moved here to take a job).
DH's parents divorced several years ago and both are remarried. I feel very lucky to get along with all of my ILs, including my SIL and her husband. I have friends that haven't been so blessed, so I know not to take it for granted! My MIL speaks very positively about her ILs (including her ex-ILs) and how great they've always been to her, so I think she's taken that to heart and tries to pass on the love.