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IL's

How do you feel about your IL's?  Do you really consider them family, the same way you consider your own?  Maybe it's because we have issues with BJ's family, but I still always think of them as "his" family, not "ours."

Re: IL's

  • Ha!  I wouldn't claim those people as my family.  They're all BSC!
  • FIL - I love this man (and the feeling is mutual). He has end stage Parkinsons disease and it is heart breaking.

    MIL - Rampant narcissist. French snob (read: thinks Americans are trash). Utterly impossible to communicate with. Has called me fat on multiple occassions. Thinks Alex "could have done better." She's a peach. BSC.

    I'm jealous that Alex got to marrry into my family. He was accepted with open arms since day one, and I wish I had that (and am so jealous of anyone who does). While my family is not perfect, we all love each other and him SO much. Sometimes we want to kill each other, but we'd always kill for each other. I wish I'd married into a family like mine... Sad

    From Oy Vey to Ole!

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    I survived the RoLex wedding and all I got was this lousy husband.
    One&Only Palmilla - Los Cabos, Mexico
  • Nope, while we all get along just fine and everyone thinks I am a peach, it is HIS family.  But I think he thinks of my family as OURS since mine is so incredibly cool like that.
  • imageChooGirl:

    I'm jealous that Alex got to marrry into my family. He was accepted with open arms since day one, and I wish I had that (and am so jealous of anyone who does). While my family is not perfect, we all love each other and him SO much. Sometimes we want to kill each other, but we'd always kill for each other. I wish I'd married into a family like mine... Sad

    Me too!!!!!

  • Even though I complain on occasion about the ILs (doesn't everybody) they are really wonderful and welcoming and have always been.  I love them, I really do and I know they will help us out if we were ever in any kind of trouble.  I like how Jordan's family is small and reserved where as mine is large and loud (that's the Italian for you.)  It's nice to have both :) 

  • imageFutureMrs.McC:
    Ha!  I wouldn't claim those people as my family.  They're all BSC!

     

    This! 

     

    And Ro, she called YOU fat? She really is BSC. I hope you told her she is a old wrinkled twat. And that is my professional opinion ;) 

  • imageFutureMrs.McC:
    Ha!  I wouldn't claim those people as my family.  They're all BSC!

    This, and for my own personal sanity I am leaving it at that. 

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    ~Kimberly & Eric~ April 21, 2008 ~Tensing Pen ~ Negril, Jamaica ~ My Blog: One Sunset at a Time
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  • imageMrs.PsyD:

    imageFutureMrs.McC:
    Ha!  I wouldn't claim those people as my family.  They're all BSC!

     

    This! 

     

    And Ro, she called YOU fat? She really is BSC. I hope you told her she is a old wrinkled twat. And that is my professional opinion ;) 

    Not only did she say it, she pinched my stomach (and I was wearing a bikini at the time). Like I said, she's a real peach. And unfortunately, for someone her age, she looks freakishly non-wrinkled. UGH. Thank God she lives far, far away...

    From Oy Vey to Ole!

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    I survived the RoLex wedding and all I got was this lousy husband.
    One&Only Palmilla - Los Cabos, Mexico
  • Despite the fact that MIL is truly BSC, and SIL is the most irresponsible person that I know, I still consider them all family.  I figure that everyone has things they can't control and unfortunately mine are these two.

  • I love my IL's they are fantastic and after hearing all the crazy s*** some of you put up with it makes me super thankful for them Big Smile
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  • imagenatalie115:
    I love my IL's they are fantastic and after hearing all the crazy s*** some of you put up with it makes me super thankful for them Big Smile

    Me too!

    Anniversary
  • imageAshleysred:
    Nope, while we all get along just fine and everyone thinks I am a peach, it is HIS family.  But I think he thinks of my family as OURS since mine is so incredibly cool like that.

    This almost exactly. We get along for the most part - there have never been any fights or anything. My IL's still drive me crazy and sometimes I can't believe I'm tied to them forever. My BIL I lay no claim to in any way, he's BSC-selfish. My SIL is pretty awesome, and she's a saint for marrying BIL and not killing him. 90% of the time things are fine with my IL's and I even enjoy their company (with the exception of BIL).

    DH thinks of my family as his family also, and they treat him as such. My family can be hard to take because we're bad communicators, but at least we all have each others backs no matter what. 

  • Well we may not all get along and I may complain about them, but we are def one family.  That also extends to all of his father's family.  All of his aunts introduce me as their niece and their cousins introduce me as their cousin and vice versa.  Of course, DH and I will be together for 15 years in June...I think that makes a big difference
  • What is BSC? I should proably be able to figure it out but can't right now.

    I'm so happy with the family I married into

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  • imageLisa7:

    What is BSC? I should proably be able to figure it out but can't right now.

    I'm so happy with the family I married into

    bsc= bat sh*t crazy

  • imagesarlah:
    imageLisa7:

    What is BSC? I should proably be able to figure it out but can't right now.

    I'm so happy with the family I married into

    bsc= bat sh*t crazy

    BOY was I off!  I was thinking Big Smelly C*nt.  I guess either would work.

  • imagekingpepsisgirl:
    imagesarlah:
    imageLisa7:

    What is BSC? I should proably be able to figure it out but can't right now.

    I'm so happy with the family I married into

    bsc= bat sh*t crazy

    BOY was I off!  I was thinking Big Smelly C*nt.  I guess either would work.

     

    HAHAAHA! I may like your version better Tammy. 

  • imagekingpepsisgirl:
    imagesarlah:
    imageLisa7:

    What is BSC? I should proably be able to figure it out but can't right now.

    I'm so happy with the family I married into

    bsc= bat sh*t crazy

    BOY was I off!  I was thinking Big Smelly C*nt.  I guess either would work.

    AWESOME!! 

  • imageChooGirl:

    MIL - Has called me fat on multiple occassions.

    You forgot BLIND, Rose!

    My inlaws suck -- no no... they BLOW.  I can't stand them and neither can DH.  Only his stems from deeep deeeeep within.

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  • My MIL and FIL aren't people I'd choose to go spend time with if there was no reason but I really do like DH's family. He's one of 6 kids and everyone is super nice and smart and fun to be around. His extended family is awesome. I got so excited when a group of his rowdy cousins came to our wedding. I knew they'd make the party and they totally did.

    I'm thankful that we all get along. They're different from my family but are also a whole lot less complicated than my family. There's no drama in his family... EVER. It's a nice change.

    I can't wait until everyone has kids (on both sides but especially his) I want oodles of cousins for my kids to play with. :) 

    Siggy Deleted Due to Internet Stalking. Mama to Q, born July 2010
  • Right now they are for sure "his" family but I hope that changes down the road. 

    His father hasn't been in the picture for about 20 years - DH just reunited with him a year ago.  So neither of us know the man and I am super untrusting of him.  His mother is has far from welcomed me with open arms.  I see progress slowly, very slowly, in her opening her heart and mind to me.  It's been a very tough road with me and her.  DH also reunited with the rest of his family (aunts, uncles, cousins) around the same time as his father came back in the picture.  I don't know them very well, but they are fabulous so far and have welomed both of us with lots of love. 

    It's not the family I dreamed of marrying into, but, eh, life goes on and it's always an adventure.

  • imageniuchick21:
    imageChooGirl:

    I'm jealous that Alex got to marrry into my family. He was accepted with open arms since day one, and I wish I had that (and am so jealous of anyone who does). While my family is not perfect, we all love each other and him SO much. Sometimes we want to kill each other, but we'd always kill for each other. I wish I'd married into a family like mine... Sad

    Me too!!!!!

    Same here!  And I'll just leave it at that.

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