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MBA program/grad school ??
DH started his Executive MBA program at RPI on Jan 5th. It is super intense, and he basically has no free time. He has had to read about 1 textbook every 2 weeks, and there is class time, study groups, papers, presentations, research.
Some days I literally don't see him, other days we say hi and that's about it, or he will come downstairs for dinner (on the few nights he is home).
Is this normal for an MBA to be this intense? Is it because it is "Executive"? Is there any reason to think it might get easier?
I think it is ridiculous that DH is supposed to spend every free moment doing school stuff. He literally never sees his kids except to spend about 20 minutes putting DD to bed, and he stays up really late trying to get work done on top of that. I know it is supposed to be a lot of work, but I am not exaggerating about the free time. I am going nuts being a "single mom", and I know he's exhausted and burnt out already.
Re: MBA program/grad school ??
Graduate programs are a lot of work. I realize DWs PhD program was probably a bit more intense but our first two years here she literally stayed at the library every night until at least 11pm. Many nights were closer to 1am. I often took her dinner to the library or met her for study breaks. But that's the life of a graduate student and I knew that going into it.
Maybe your DH needed set more realistic expectations for you, or perhaps even he didn't know how much work was involved. I'm sure by next semester he'll have figured out a way to have a better school/life balance. Hang in there!
I should add, I graduated summa *** laude from a Master's Program in 2001.. but I didn't have kids and I lived at school. I don't think it was this intense even though my program was the same length of time. I did work extremely hard, but I wasn't working full time (just short of it).
I do think DH takes on too much. The sad thing is, he is not seeing his kids grow up. Especially our little baby
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My previous boss was in an Executive MBA program, and he was in school every Friday (or every other?), and then on a team and had meetings with his team at least 2 nights during the week for projects, plus independent study for tests,etc. So yeah, he had zero free time. Our company was also going public at the time, so it was super nuts on the workfront at the same time. I don't think the Executive MBA is any more difficult than a standard program, but it's concentrated.
Eh, I'm sure it feels hard now, but it's not a permanent thing. It WILL end, and foreseeably. So to say he's missing "his kids growing up" might be a bit melodramatic. He's going to be really busy for a finite period in order to secure better prospects for the long haul, for the whole family. It's not an easy choice, but if you make him feel guilty for it, it'll only make it harder.
I was friends with a few parents when I was in law school, and it was really hard on them, but that's how they got through it: remembering that it's finite, and there will be many MORE years in which their opportunities will be greater for having made the sacrifice.
Hang in there, I'm sure this isn't easy for anyone.