May 2007 Weddings
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FFF Confessions
Flame-Free Friday Confessions... anyone?
Re: FFF Confessions
I have baby fever bad. I was looking at David's new born pictures and I miss the little baby. I was a tad disappointed starting AF, knowing full well the timing with work would have been bad. (Stacy you need to have your baby so I can get the NB fix for now, just tell me all the horrible stories, not the cute ones ;o) )
I want to tell my sister to open her damn eyes. She is way to clingy to her current boyfriend, and all for that matter. She can do so much better. This guy is not the worst of the bunch but I think she has let herself go, both in terms of her morals/beliefs and physical apperance.
If I won the lotto today, I would not come back to work. I used to say, oh yeah, I'd work. Nope, changed my mind. I would be a stay at home mom and would consider having more than 2 kids (our current number of kids we want to have). Along the same lines, I wish DH made more money, that way I could consider the possibilty of working PT. However, I make almost 1.5 times as much as him and that is never going to change (if anyone would work PT, it would be him)
I keep internally complaining about my weight but do nothing about it. We have all this work out equiement/dvd's and I am too lazy. I need to get motivated but I always find an excuse.
I just bought two new recliners and two end tables for our den. We didn't "need" them but we wanted to make the den look a little better (our old tables had pink marble tops and we had one recliner that had been in use by either me or my dad for the past 12 years). I feel guilty that we spent $2400 on those four pieces when we could have saved it....especially since I just bought our new double ovens last week.
My FFF Confession is that I feel like you turn to us to assuage your guilt every time you spend money when you know you can afford it and there's no reason other than your type A personality gnawing at you not to. You're the type of person to access your finances and not spend a dime unless you know without a shadow of a doubt that you'll still be in a financially sound place.
Ha...I know I do it. I think it's because every.single.time. I buy something, my mom will say to me "I just don't think you should be spending your money that way" as if I don't have the money to do it, which then makes me feel guilty for doing it.
I'm overly annoyed at one of my partners. Long story short, MH works for us doing a job that he is INCREDIBLY good at. MH had an opportunity to interview for a job that would have him driving 3 hours a day to get to/from work (with no mileage being paid), making less, and in a much more stressful environment. He decided that he just didn't want to do it so he turned down the interview after he and I talked about it for HOURS one night.
Partner comes to me and says "I think it was a bad decision for him not to take that job. He shouldn't count on this job. If we have to let people go, it will be hard to let someone else go and keep him." Um, WTF? MH does a better job than half the people we have doing the same job. He's more consistent, he turns in more work and his work is correct over 95% of the time (which I realize doesn't sound like a high standard, but what we have them do is really hard and we end up sending back around 40% of the files we get for more work). We kept on one girl for THREE years because same partner didn't want to fire her even though she did a HORRIBLE job. MH also has seniority over 6 of the other people who do the same job.
(Side note: it's not just me who thinks MH does a good job - his direct supervisor has come in multiple times talking about how good he is at this job and how she would hate to lose him).
MH and I nearly bought new TVs for our new place. Like, we were at BB, comparing, eyeing them up, etc. (Not a big deal except we're trying to pay off as much debt as possible... hence the reason we didn't get a laptop for Xmas.)
I had my heart pretty much set on having both TVs in our house new, flat-screen, LCDs after we'd gone. Then MH called BB when we got home to see what the limit on his card was only to find they'd DEACTIVATED IT (without notifying him or not at his request) because it hadn't had any activity in ~24 months (nowhere in the terms did it say that would happen!)
(Which, after sleeping on it, we decided we could live without them and it wasn't the best decision.)
I couldn't tolerate that and would totally tell her off, or at the very least snap at her to the point she backed the eff off.
I'm apparently a very mean person. LOL
I do snap when she does it...but then she still does it again. It's like when someone tells you you look fat in a skirt. You love the skirt and never thought you looked fat in it before, but since they told you that, you keep thinking about it. (obviously you is not you as in any of you girls but you as in the general you of the universe)
F/U to Mandy's metaphor:
Despite being chubbier (or downright fat to some people), no one has ever dared say I was fat in an outfit. LOL
S/O of Jo's (which I'd remembered ~10 minutes ago but then forgotten):
I need to buy new underwear as well. In packing, I sorted through mine and trashed a bunch of ones I either didn't like anymore (so therefore never wore) or had seen better days. I have yet to suck it up and go buy replacements.
In an effort to better communicate with MH (we're working to improve this because this is our downfall), I had to admit to him that I didn't think he'd naturally paint well enough for my standards.
It then led to me pointing out the flaws he and a friend made (all over the house where they'd painted) when we moved into our current place. And me admitting that yes, I'm a control freak and really struggling to let him or anyone else tape or paint in our new place because I want it done to my standards.
Again, I realize this makes me really kind of a ***.
But he took it well. I took it less well when he said "You do realize you can't do it all in the new place and are going to have to let me or dad help, right?" 
Yes, I realize that. And I'm going to try to be nice because he said he's going to have me check as he goes to make sure he doesn't miss spots like he did previously.
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I'm really irritated at this woman who has an office adjacent to my team's row of cubicles. She's "turned us in" to my manager for hanging out online too much at sites that "might not be appropriate".
I'd like to know who she thinks she is to A) monitor our internet usage as she walks by, back and forth to her buddy's office around the corner, 
deem any sites we're on as inappropriate, C) bring this to our manager's attention (when our manager doesn't care as long as we get our work done efficiently. Which we all do.)
Crotch.
I'm so glad you are getting excited. I don't blame you, since we did fertility treatment we had a big increased risk (also my dad is a twin) so I was really nervous. I know I would have been excited eventually but i was definatley freaking out alittle!
My confession is it's own post b/c it's about 5 years long.
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People who take advantage of government help drive me insane. I know a few people who get help...one of them really does deserve it and has worked hard in the past and currently to end his help-needing situation. Another one gets herself pg and says "Oh good...now I'll get more in food stamps and gov't assistance." She refuses to marry her FI b/c she's getting money for one kid and he's collecting for the other...somehow if they get married their assistance will go down. The third is just a nut who's milking it for all its worth...new car, new designer clothes. It was Christmas when she found out what she was getting.
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I'd posted something on my FB about going to Mexico...within minutes one of my friends (actually someone I talk to sometimes, not just a random FB "friend") posted on her status that she hates people who take vacations and she knows they're putting themselves into debt in order to go. She then texts me and tells me to have fun and that she's jealous b/c I get to go "everywhere." I really wanted to respond back that we're not putting this on a cc...and we're down to one car payment and still have our house. They got foreclosed on a few months ago but are going to Disneyland next week.
.: Diary of a Recovering Runner :.
This drives me nuts. I hate when people reply on FB about how jealous they are of this or that ALL THE TIME. Okay, once in a while... I get it. If I'm going on a dream vacation to Fiji or whatever, fine... be jealous. But seriously? Don't be jealous if you don't do anything to get what you want. If you want a vacation, you've done it before... suck it up and save for it instead of shopping every.single.day, or spending your money on dinner out, etc.
In life, you typically get what you want because you've earned it. Not because someone handed it to you. So if you put no effort in, you won't get anything out.
Unless, like Val's first confession, you somehow manage to fall into that "I get assistance and misuse it."
Yup, those people drive me nuts too. It's so frustrating and disheartening to see those people with everything brand-spanking-new and top of the line while hard working people just make do a lot of the time.
I just asked my CW if the Admin in our office got a boob job. Her tatas went from ~B sized to bigger than mine. No joke.. NEARLY head sized EACH. (She's kind of known as a partier and has been seen as a Miller Lite girl around town, so I guess that's kind of an investment...
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I thought "She either got a boob job or she's pregnant." Unfortunately, she kind of has that slight beer-belly shape so only time will tell.
I'm late but have some...
My MIL added me on facebook and I accepted but it bugs me...I'm thinking of defriended her. I don't want her thinking that everything is okay with us. I still want nothing to do with her.
I'm getting annoyed with an old friend of mine...we were best friends until her jealousy of me having a BF ended it...now because of facebook she is trying to weasel her way back into some of our original group of friends saying she misses them wants to catch up and blah blah blah. It makes me mad because she was such a stuck up b*tch and hasnt talked to any of our friends in forever and now all of a sudden she wants to be best buds again. I don't know if this even makes sense...I just wish she'd go away!