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WWYD/vent
Bah, I was just thrown under the bus by my Vice Principal. =(
Three days ago, I thought I saw one of my students smoking at the library... so I asked the other teachers what I should do about it. They told me to talk to the VP. So I did. Now, when we talked, I emphasized that I had no hard proof, but that I was pretty sure of what I saw. She told me, that since it's not illegal for 13 year olds to smoke (just to buy cigarettes), I should just give him the old 'smoking is bad talk' and handle it myself. So, that's what I did - but I made sure not to accuse him of anything, because that would allienate him.
Well, yesterday at lunch, the VP grabbed the child and told him that an unnamed teacher had seen him smoking. The kid FREAKED out in a "I can't believe someone would accuse me of that" kind of way. It took me 50 minutes to calm him down, all the while feeling horrible because I was the one who went to the VP and I'm now convinced that I was mistaken and didn't actually see him smoking. Half way through the class the VP came in to tell me what she'd done and to tell me not to admit that I was the one who went to her.
I'm really pissed to be put in this situation that has not been handled appropriately at all. If this kid (and his class) find out that I went to the VP, the 5 months I spent building trust with them will go down the drain and the last half of the school year is going to suck. But, I've been forbidden from apologizing to him (which is what I think is the honourable thing to do) and I can't do anything about the situation. I don't know what I'm going to do if they find out.
If anything, I've learned that I can't trust the VP...
Re: WWYD/vent
Jaime & Brent
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if she is doing your eval next week i would definitely try to go talk to her again. let her know that you were coming to her for advice and got the impression that she was going to let you handle the situation. impress upon her that you were not trying to say "i can't deal with this" and that was not the reason why you came to her...rather, you were coming to her for advice and to find out if there was anything else that could be done besides talking to the kid. find a way to politely tell her that in the future you will definitely try to handle these situations yourself and that you will come to her if you need help. maybe she will take that as a hint that she shouldn't have interfered until after you had talked to the kid yourself first???
Jaime & Brent
Oahu, Hawaii | Sept. 9, 2005
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Wow, that's a tough situation there. I have no idea what your VP was thinking telling you to talk to the student but then doing it herself too. Was she aware of the fact that you took her initial advice and already talked to the student? If not, then maybe I might want to clear that up before the eval so she doesn't go into the eval thinking that you didn't do what she suggested?
Also, does the student probably know that you were the unnamed teacher since you already talked to him about it before the VP did? If you really want to talk to the student, then I'd probably do so and apologize to the student but maybe after the eval so that the VP doesn't think you're undermining her or something. And explain the situation to the student later?
Sorry you're in this situation =( I hope everything gets resolved soon. GL!