October 2009 Weddings
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Something positive...
Sounds like some of us have the winter blues. In an attempt to shake the blues away, share something positive that is going on in your life right now.
Re: Something positive...
My positive things...
1. I received a title promotion last week. No pay increase, but I am really excited that I this title will end up on my resume!
2. We may be opening escrow on a home. Fingers crossed that the bank approves the seller's short sale!
1. I have had 2.5 extra paid days off (not my vacation time) since last friday! With the snow coming tonight I might get more
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2. DH and I have gotten so in sync with our plans for the future, I have never felt so connected with him or supported by him in our 6 years together. It has brought on a whole new level of intimacy to our relationship.
3. I will (hopefully) be starting a new job soon that puts me on my path to librarianhood.
4. I have the most awesome neighbors ever and I'm so glad that DH and I moved into this building. I love having such great friends under the same roof. Being snowed in this weekend would have been SO dull if we weren't all together!
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This morning it was BEAUTIFUL out. The bright green hills had snow on the top and the dark grey sky had one of the biggest rainbows I have ever seen!
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YAY I can post! My computer was being a jerk....
1. My mom is turning 50 next month and I am getting excited for our mother daughter trip. I really want to do something special for her.
2. Really looking forward to out trip this weekend. LOVE going to beach when it's cool out in a hoodie and jeans and just laying there. I SO need this right now.
3. A guidance counselor I work with just wrote me THE BEST letter of recommendation "just in case" I need it in the near future.
So nice of him and made me feel really good.
I helped a friend find an apartment and we are closing tomorrow! Unless the snow kills that plan, but either way, I am happy for her and can't wait for that commission check! $$ If it wasn't for that, I would be uber-excited about the foot+ of snow that is supposed to hit NYC tomorrow. Bring it on, because next winter, we'll be living in SF!
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A hedgehog!!?? COOL!!!!!!
1. I made a decision last week that will get me a fat little check in time for my birthday in a couple weeks. I'm going to take that money and invest it in the home business I'm starting. Happy birthday to me!
2. I've wanted to get braces for forever to straighten my teeth, and was able to afford it (Invisalign) this year. Now I'm starting to see some real changes in the position of my teeth and I know that before long it will be October and they (should) be straight.
3. I had been having some problems with really low libido and decided to try going off the pill to get things back to "normal." In the past few weeks I've noticed a big change in that department and it's awesome!
I've been wondering about this myself... are you doing the "natural" family planning now that you're off it? Or other protection? Or are you not worried about a "surprise" if it happens? I have a ridiculously low sex drive (have had for the past few years) and I'm convinced it's the BC. I feel terrible for DH, but we aren't ready for kids right now, so what do you do, right? Anyway, just thought I'd pick your brain... you don't have to answer if it's TMI.
I don't mind sharing! I'd been on the pill for 7 years and my sex drive slowly dwindled to basically nothing. In Dec '08 when I went for my annual well woman's exam I asked my doctor about it and she told me only a very small percentage of women experience that as a side affect and that it was most likely psychological (e.g. stress, etc). Well nothing was wrong with our relationship so I chalked it up to stress. I started exercising, lost some weight, and tried really hard to not let my job stress me out and nothing worked. In fact it was still getting worse- I got to the point where I didn't really even want to kiss DH or anything. So he was miserable and I felt guilty, and I figured what was the point of 99.9% effectiveness when you aren't having sex anyways?
I went off the pill at Thanksgiving and although I wouldn't say things are back to the way they were early on in our relationship, I can definitely tell a difference in my body. Also, this may be TMI but on the pill I always had problems getting to the big "O" (which made me want sex even less) and I didn't have those problems before. Now that I'm off the pill... no more problems with that. We are not interested in having kids right now, so we're using spermicidally-lubricated condoms. Plus, I've been charting my cycle using the cervical mucus method so I know when I'm getting close to ovulating and we can avoid having sex. If you google it you'll find a bunch of websites about it. I also considered doing the basal body temperature charting, but it only tells you after you've ovulated which is too late, since the best time for conception is having sex the couple of days before ovulation. No, we don't want to get pregnant right now, but our relationship was really stressed before so I figure this is the lesser of two evils. Hope that helps!!
Haha, that's exactly what I'm wondering right now!
Maybe that's my problem with the big O too... hmm... my OBGYN actually told me that a large percent of women on the pill have the lowered sex drive - I'm surprised that yours said it was so small. Mine basically said, "yep, the BC is why... what are your baby plans? not for a while? ok well, you can take the chance if you want, the only way to get your drive back is to go off the pill!"
We were married in a Catholic church, so we had to attend their Natural Family Planning course, so we know the basic idea. It started to sound kind of gross to me, but he didn't get into to much detail about the mucas method, he mostly focused on the temperature method. Maybe I'll look into it after my next annual appointment.
Thanks for sharing!
I think my OBGYN is a huge feminist, and I have a feeling that had a lot to do with her answer. She's an African American, female doctor in her late 40's, early 50's so she's a pretty tough, strong-willed lady. But I had a feeling it was the pill which is why I just decided to try going off of it in November to see if it changed anything. I went for my annual in January and my OBGYN was just like "Well, just don't show up here pregnant" (jokingly).
The mucus thing isn't that bad. Not really any worse than putting a tampon in. I was talking to my mom about it a couple weeks ago and she said that's how she got pregnant with me, which I didn't know. It's actually kind of cool to know what's going on with your body. Good luck with things!