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Moving away from North Carolina

Hi ladies,
I thought I would throw this out there and ask for advice.  My husband and I have lived here pretty much our whole lives.  Our families also live within thirty minutes of us.  Pretty much our entire lives are planned out right in our little town.  While I like this security, I don't want to look back and wish I would have done things differently.  Recently, my husband showed an interest in moving to a new position within his current company.  This new job would be located outside of London.  We have been to the UK before but only in a tourist compacity.  I do know that Americans from his current office do work  in London as well.  So, we would know some people at least.  What would you guys do?  Any one have any similar experiences?  Pretty much I don't want to find myself being homesick and spending my weekends watching reruns of Friends instead of traveling;)  I also am still figuring out the work visa for myself.  I currently teach but am not sure if I would want to there.  Thanks in advance!

Re: Moving away from North Carolina

  • Wow, sounds like a great opportunity to go out and see the world. I was in England for 3 months studying abroad and loved it. But I think the only way I could actually move there though is to have some kind of timeline. No way could I do it permanently, but if I knew it was only going to be for a few years I'd take advantage.
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    Wow, sounds like a great opportunity to go out and see the world. I was in England for 3 months studying abroad and loved it. But I think the only way I could actually move there though is to have some kind of timeline. No way could I do it permanently, but if I knew it was only going to be for a few years I'd take advantage.

    This! I'd be psyched to go if I knew I'd eventually get to come back.

  • I would move there in a heartbeat. An opportunity like that doesn't come around very often, but I'm also the kind of person who could never live in just one spot my entire life. I've never been to England, but have heard great things about London.
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    imageH&W05:
    Wow, sounds like a great opportunity to go out and see the world. I was in England for 3 months studying abroad and loved it. But I think the only way I could actually move there though is to have some kind of timeline. No way could I do it permanently, but if I knew it was only going to be for a few years I'd take advantage.

    This! I'd be psyched to go if I knew I'd eventually get to come back.

    Ditto

  • DO IT!  I think you would regret NOT doing it.
  • before jumping the gun, maybe your DH should look more into the position and weigh the pros and cons of the actual job - salary increase, promotion, possibility to relocate back to the US, if relocation is paid, and extra vacation time to visit with family in the US, etc...?
  • I would go. . .especially knowing that it wouldn't be forever. I've lived abroad before (but just for 3 months) and loved it. I think you'd regret it if you didn't go.
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  • I'd totally do it. I think its good for everyone to move away from their comfort zone for a little while, and you can't beat London! I'm jealous!
  • My husband and I grew up in small towns in Kansas.  We went to the U of Kansas. Our parents live in Kansas, and all of our siblings live in Kansas. 

    When he was choosing a graduate school, he had the option to stay at KU, but we knew if we didn't leave when given a good opportunity, we may have never have left, and we would have missed out on so much.  He chose Duke, and I could not be happier here.  I guess Durham is my London :) 

  • i think thats awesome!

    I can tell you DH and I moved away from our "securities" 4 years ago. All the way from Michigan. Currently we only go home about once a year at Christmas. Last year was the exception and we got to go back an extra time in the summer for my sisters wedding. It was really really really tough the first year or so. We were lonely and missed our friends and our family a lot. Now that we have met some people and are used to the distance and calling our parents or whoever instead of seeing them it is quite a bit easier. I will still say I miss it and would like to get back but this experience has really made us rely on each other and strengthen our relationship. It has helped us grow as a couple. I would do it again given the chance too. But I also know we will go back there too. I think thats the thing that makes it not too bad sometimes.

     

    i say doooo it!

  • I think we'd definitely do it, especially if it's just for a few years. (I know that my DH would be all over that idea! He loves London and would jump at the chance to live there!) One factor for me would be the cost of living- I think that London is a fairly expensive place to live. Would your DH's salary be enough to cover the costs of living there (especially if you aren't able to work due to work visa issues?--I have no idea how that works)? But overall, I think the experience of living abroad would be really neat. GL with your decision!
  • I would abso-freaking-lutely move. 

    You probably will find yourself homesick, it's natural, but if you take advantage of the opportunity you can experience something new & awesome. It's a choice you'll have to make when confronted with the situation. Set it up to Skype regularly w/ your friends & family, start letter writing, create a blog - these things will help you stay connected while allowing you to go live and explore some place new. 

  • In a heart beat.  Don't miss out on a opportunity you may never get again.
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  • How long would the move be for? Do you need to have a job while living there? from my understanding it can be hard to get a work visa.

    My parents live in London right now and overall they have really enjoyed it. They have traveled to so many places while living there (they have been there since 2005). So while she does like it over there, my mom is now ready to come home. They do come back to the states a decent amount and they have had lots of people visit them over there.

    I think it is good for people to live other places. I can not image living in the same place my whole life. 

    I would probably do it. 

     

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  • I think it would be a GREAT opportunity!  Take it, especially if you can swing the cost of living.  It would be an incredible experience!
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