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Boosting libido while on antidepressants
I'm taking an antidepressant and I am never in the mood or want sex anymore. Do you girls have any ideas on how to "talk" myself into having sex or how to boost my libido (w/out changing meds)? My hubby has a low libido anyway so it's usually not a problem, BUT I would really like to have sex on V-day weekend!! We haven't had sex in about a month now, or longer (I've been sick).
Re: Boosting libido while on antidepressants
This may seem weird, but sometimes I have to basically tell myself to 'just do it'. I always enjoy it as soon as it starts, but it's the initiating part where I have the problem. My libido (on meds too) isn't high enough to necessarily want to initiate it, but sometimes I just know that we will both feel better if we do it. I'm in the same boat as you with V-day weekend. I would like us to have sex this weekend, but I know if I don't make a point of it, it won't happen. I will tell myself that we ARE going to have sex on whatever night and then I make myself initiate it.
It probably sounds like I don't enjoy it, but that's not it. I DO enjoy it, it's just something with getting motivated to actually DO it. Does that make any sense?! Anyway, my advice to you is decide that you are going to do it one night (even if you're not necessarily in the mood) and then just DO it. I know that's not a way to increase your libido exactly, but it's a way to make sure that it happens. I'm looking forward to what others have to say...
It totally sucks too, b/c w/out bc and antidepressants, my libido is really high. I want to do it multiple times a day...on meds it's like once a month maybe. I guess it's ok though, because like I said, my dh has a relatively low drive (he wants it around once a week, or once every other week).
BC+SSRI'S=NO SEX. It really blows! I have to really do the same thing and talk myself into it, once it's started, it's great! After it's over I think, "Uhhh, why aren't we doing this more often?"
I have been having the SAME problems. Before my husband and I got married, our sex life was EXPLOSIVE. Amazing, amazing, every time we had sex it was like it got better and better. I didn't know people could have such good sex. Then, right after the wedding I hit a bad slump and went back on antidepressants (Zoloft) and my sex drive is just-gone. As if I've had an appendage cut off. I am never in the mood, and even trying to get there is difficult, unless I skip a day or two of my meds, but then that throws me off balance mood wise.
What sucks too is that my husband initiates even less, because he gets frustrated that he's not pleasing me, and its not any fun for him. We still have sex on a pretty regular basis (once a week, give or take) but before, it was almost every day.
Yeah, antidepressants are pretty much an orgasm killer. I have found that skipping a day (or just waiting to take it later in the day, after sex) is helpful. It really depends. Sometimes it helps, and sometimes it doesn't.
Lately, I have been able to reach orgasm a little easier...you REALLY REALLY have to let yourself go, and kind of 'get out of your head.' And if your partner tends to be a bit selfish, have a talk with him and let him know the best way to help you out is to give you as much attention as possible, foreplay wise, or whatever usually 'does it' for you. If he complains or tries to get to what he wants, gently remind him that he needs to focus on you so that you both get pleasure out of it. And like PP said, you have to kind of 'make yourself' do it.
But a huge thing, (which i need to do too!) is talk to your doctor. You might be able to switch to a different AD that doesn't have such strong sexual side effects (such as wellbutrin). I'm planning on trying a different one after this bottle it out.
I am so dry all the time too. I don't know which meds is causing it though. I take Zyrtec and Singular too. I drink about 18 cups of water a day and don't pee that much. I also have NO natural lubrication, and never have really (I've always been on this crap).
EASDLJFSKD I wish I could get off all these meds!!!
idk if it's known to have less side effects. but in the past on two different occasions i've taken effexor xr and lo ovral and actually had increased libido. however over thanksgiving and christmas i took generic effexor and lo ovral and felt awful!! since stopping the lo ovral and just taking zoloft i'm ok. not the best but ok. then again i'm turning 32 on tuesday so maybe age has somehting to do with it. i've never taken wellbutrin but if i were a few years younger and not soon to be actively trying to concieve then i'd try the wellbutrin. i just know right now for me turning 32 my clock is ticking yet i right now more than ever need the zoloft and can't go off and with it being preggo safe it's the choice for me.
any allergy meds have a drying effect. when you think about it...it makes sense. your allergies act up and you start snotting all over the place...you cough up phlegm.....basically over produce mucous. the meds dry you up so it stops all the phleghm and schmutz but also dries up your natural lubrication. i don't know of any allergy med that doesn't dry you up. maybe someone out there knows of one??