Poll: Do you socialize w/ your s/o?

ctbride08 · September 2008

Andrea and I are always teased about this so I"m wondering...[Poll]

bluedaisyus · September 2008

ok, so now that i've already answered i don't know that any of those really fit for us. most of the time we go out together, but not always. there are times when we go out solo--like when c has darts, i often don't go because she has to go straight to work after and it seems silly to take two cars, and i'll go out with friends by myself when she's working overtime, that kind of thing--but it's not very often. "sometimes" feels like it's relatively frequent, so even though i answered that way it's really more of a "most of the time we socialize together, but sometimes we don't" answer.

ctbride08 · September 2008

here's the backstory on this...many of our straight and/or single friends tease us about being a "package deal" - meaning that we always go out together and rarely socialize without the other. I usually just take the teasing with a grain of salt and move on, but the other day a friend called us co-dependent, and i took that personally. I mean, i spend 50+ hours a week away from Andrea - not to mention that she's my best friend - so when i'm out having fun, i want her to be with me. I dont see whats so weird about that. However, many of our straight married friends enjoy socializing w/o thier spouse (having "girls nights" ect) so they dont understand why we dont feel similar about needing space.

Your thoughts?

i should mention that A and I dont spend every last non-working hour together, we both have hobbies that we do separately (ie: she plays horseshoes, i decorate cakes , ect)

ctbride08 · September 2008

i added a "most of the time" for you good point!

rikkiandjulie · September 2008

Julie and I always socialize together. I ditto everything E said.

bluedaisyus · September 2008

ctbride08:

i added a "most of the time" for you good point!

gah! i wish i could change my answer. i knew i should have run my mouth first. Wink

cookiemonster03 · September 2008

ok, I answered Always, but its like Most of the Time Plus. We have a similar situation to you...we have some seperate sports engagements, and I serve on a couple of committees (plus school stuff), but outside of that, we're together all the time.

Two*True · September 2008

This is a hard one for me because I don't really consider myself having a social life here in Albany. If we go out to the bars or dinner, it's always as a couple. I have one friend whom I will go to coffee or the mall with. Other than that I don't really have friends here.

I will add that at the wedding this past weekend, K was perfect. She met my friends, hung out with us, but also left every now and again so we could have 'girl time'. It was great, and K keeps saying how much she liked everyone. So, if we were to live in CA again I think we'd socialize together much more.

Mrs._F · September 2008

C and I are a "package deal" as well Smile

I 100% agree with what you said, Elise, about spending time apart for work and thus wanting to be together otherwise!

On occasion things come up that C will do alone (golf with work friends, etc), or that I will (one of my oldest friends lives very near to us and will sometimes come over and hang out with me when C is working late) - but we generally socialize together.

The friends that we had individually before meeting have become mutual friends, and we like it that way!

I would have been offended by that co-dependant remark as well. To me, it's a sign of a healthy happy relationship when you genuinely want to be together all the time! Cecilia is my favorite person to spend time with - just one of the many reasons I married her! Big Smile

jayangel · September 2008

We almost always socialize together for us its not a problem we're best friends so we love to be together in our free time. There's noone other than J that I would enjoy spending time with. In the past 3yrs of our relationship I can count the number of times I've been out without Jay on one hand. Most of our friends think its crazy and we spend way to much time together but it works for us and we wouldn't have it any other way.

Skeezon · September 2008

Danielle and I are almost always together... After I am at work and school and she is at work all day, I can't wait to see her. I guess that is special to have after almost 11 years together!

ssg73 · September 2008

I would say that we socialize most of the time together. We do have our own sets of friends that we go out with alone sometime but I guess we mostly hang out with other couples (gay and staight) so while we are socializing together so is everyone else. We do have our kind of separate events and activities too but the line kind of blends. For example S's basket ball women had a party for one of the members who was changing jobs. I was invited as well (the host made sure that I knew that I was invited as well) but it was really just the girls and no other s.o. attended. (if you can believe it almost all the women in S's b.ball league are straight!) On the other hand when I hang out with a bunch of school people while Sue is invited she tends to not go because we tend to talk shop which is boring to her. Though no one would mind if she came. So for the most part we are a package deal but sometimes we go our own ways

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