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Prop 8 facebook frustration
I may have mentioned here how I came to join the No on Prop 8 facebook group. A mormon friend of mine from HS had sent a notification to all his friends, urging us to join the Yes of Prop 8 group. I promptly found the No group and changed my status to reflect my lack of support. Not exactly the effect he intended, I'm sure. I'm not sure if he noticed my quick response or not.
That was several weeks ago. This morning his new status is:
crazyfriend is amazed that people don't know that civil unions(in CA) already have ALL the same rights as marriages. EDUCATE YOURSELVES!
This makes me want to bang my head against a wall, quite obviously. As angry as I am at the silly notion that this fact would change my vote, I need to assure myself that nothing I say will change his mind. I have no need to get into an unnecessary argument with an old acquaintance.
What's really strange to me is that the mormons I knew in HS were some of the nicest, kindest people, and though very involved with their church, generally unaffected by it to the outside eye. To someone like me, they were indistinguishable from all the other Christians I grew up with. Through a strange series of events I was invited to Winter Ball one year because this particular friend found a way to go with his girlfriend without his parents knowing, since he was still under 16.
From the very little I can glean about their current lives from being a facebook friend, apparently the teenage years during which I knew them were very rebelious. Compared to the bulk of my facebook friends, these mormons are marching right in line with stereotype on marriage, children, and Prop 8.
I need to remind myself I don't know a single non-mormon in favor of Prop 8 and keep breathing.
Re: Prop 8 facebook frustration
It's the CA constitutional gay marriage ban.
LMW - that's an interesting theory. Do you think they're afraid of the flack they'd get/awkward position they'd be in if polygamy were debated?
That is insane. I would find a link to something non-inflammatory explaining the significance of Prop 8 from you side, and send him a private message saying that you don't believe the rights are equal for the reasons in the link, and while you respect his beliefs to think otherwise, you just wanted to share the facts in the link for him to read if he was curious to understand your side a little better.
I just don't think mainstream Mormons or at least those in leadership, ever want to see polygamy come back.
Very diplomatic, ESF.
I'm now curious about my mormon friends' stance(s). My former boss's sister lives in LA, and my coworker & her husband are moving there. hmm...
Ugh, my best friend from hs is mormon and while they were all very nice, they were also very conservative and seemingly narrowminded. I attended a lot of their functions and the puritanism blew me away, even then. My BF was soo disappointed in me when I didn't save myself until marriage.
I personally think the whole thing is ridiculous and gays should be able to marry each other. It's a religious sacrament more than anything. It should not be legislated. And I'm so tired of hearing people act like this will hurt marriage. I don't see why my marriage will be in anyway harmed if my gay friends got married. Why can't people live their lives the way they want, if it's not going to hurt anyone else.