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Attention ALL - I do in fact have a BFing ticker, lol
::sticks tongue out at Meredith::
I did take out the wording so people would not know, but yes it is in fact a BFing ticker. Well now it is just a ticker because I took DS off the boob about a month and a half ago. He became a biter. Yes I know, TMI.
In the beginning I needed something to keep me motivated. It was so hard for me. At first I had to talk myself into it every feeding. My friends kept telling me if you can make it to 6 weeks it gets drastically easier, so this was one way to keep track.
Re: Attention ALL - I do in fact have a BFing ticker, lol
OK, fair enough. I hope I wasn't too snarky about it.
That said, I am making no excuses for my snark directed towards the naked-couple-staring-man-breastfeeding one.
Adam & Shoshie 10-21-07: "My family is big and loud and everybody's in each other's lives and business. ... but wherever I go, they will always be there." * My Blog: Tales of a Hopeful Jewish Mom to Be *
But it's not a pic of you, your boob and a guy.
It's a classier one.
Adam & Shoshie 10-21-07: "My family is big and loud and everybody's in each other's lives and business. ... but wherever I go, they will always be there." * My Blog: Tales of a Hopeful Jewish Mom to Be *
Married, why was it so hard? As someone who's never done it, I don't get it but want to know. Be graphic if you like.
Is it wrong that I keep reading this title as a buttfucking ticker?
Talk about your TMIs...
Why is it hard?
Because it hurts! Because at first, you're doing it all the time, generally every two hours. Because it really & truthfully doesn't come naturally as it's suggested. Because of mastisis. Because of thrush. Because of a bad latch. Because for the first six weeks you are trying to establish a supply and a routine so you can literally be nursing 'round the clock. Because of cluster feeding. Because of growth spurts.
Scared yet?
I am a failure at BFing but these are things others have talked about on my mom board.
There's a great book out about BFing and the author is very honest. Very honest. Get it.
It's called "So That's What They're For"
I see Bunny and her H tried something new last night.
::runs out of post, ducking for cover:::
LOL!!!!
Major DS is doing well off the boob! I did it gradually instead of cold turkey by replacing one nursing session with a bottle.
Brookles, I think part of my difficulty was expectations. I thought that it would be a bonding experience but in the beginning it is more like a science experiment. Things that make it hard:
1. It hurts. People kept saying if you are doing it right it shouldn't hurt. WHATEVER. It hurts until your nipples get used to it which for me was around 6-8 weeks.
2. Sleep deprivation - getting used to the lack of sleep that comes along with having a newborn is really hard, compound that with the fact that no one can help you with the feeding part of it makes it even harder.
3. Maintaining your supply. Your body eventually figures out how much milk you need to do provide for your DC, but this only works out if you are consistently nursing. This means you can't miss a nursing session or if you do you need to pump. That means every couple of hours, day or night, you will need to be up to feed your child.
4. Pumping sucks. It is time consuming until you get used to it and so by the time you try to pump to make a bottle you would have been better off just nursing and foregoing the sleep.
5. Growth Spurts - nursing what seems like every hour for a few days straight.
6. Never being able to leave your child in the beginning. See 3 & 4.
7. Lack of emotional support from random people - you would be surprised at the number of people who are annoyed that they can't feed your baby.
8. Trying to get them to latch correctly and what position works best for your particular baby for nursing.
9. Oh and did I say it hurts.
10. The constant worry about whether your child has received enough, whether you are doing it right, all during a time when your horomones are their worse.
AND THEN
Miraculously one day I didn't have to talk myself into it. And I began to love nursing. I loved not having to make bottles or spend money on formula. I did finally have my bonding experience and my baby was nice and chunky. I was actually sad to stop nursing but the biting was becoming a bit much. It is so worth it if you can work through all the issues, but sometimes the happiness of the mother is more important. I had a friend who had mastitis and it was horrible. At the end of the day, she was a much happier mommy once she decided to give bottles. It is a very individual decision and one only you can make for yourself.
Wow. Thanks, married and summer, for taking the time to educate me/us on this. I really have no idea about any of this (I only have a few friends with kids), so it's news to me. This is all stuff to think about.
And, married, at least there's a light at the tunnel. Sooo when did it become easier?
Thanks for sharing your experience!
I am really hoping to nurse, and I am going to try my best, but I am nervous about it. I took a class and am trying to prepare myself as much as I can, but still.
You would think something so important to the continuation of humankind would be easier than this!!!!
OMG, we do not do that. LOL.
Sorry for all the questions--I'll definitely research this myself someday rather than just ask on internet boards.
But what do they teach you in BF-ing classes? I can't imagine it would be easy to teach verbally. Kind of like riding a bike. Heh heh.
coming late, but here goes...
BF'ing can hurt, but it shouldn't be agony... my favorite quote about BF'ing is that it should "feel more like making a baby than having a baby." If you're in agony, call somebody.
You will lose yourself in being a mom, esp breastfeeding, in the first several weeks. The more you stress out about time and schedules and writing things down, the unhappier you'll be. Babies don't sleep a whole lot, and certainly don't sleep long times at night. But formula won't change that.
Realize that you BOTH need to learn how to breastfeed - and you each need to learn how to do it together, but that women have been doing it forever...
and
Have the number for LLL on hand. Seriously, they rock and will be the people who will hook you up with good information at 3 a.m. in the morning.
I am the 99%.