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What is my problem?!
I think I've complained about this before, so please forgive me. 
I went to a baby shower today for one of my best friends (she was actually a BM in our wedding). She (and her friends and even some of her family members) are a few years younger than I am. I was the only one (out of about 50-60 guests) who wasn't there with their parent or who wasn't a parent themselves!
I think it's because my friend is pregnant and I see her every day, but about every other night for the past couple of weeks, I've had baby-related dreams. I KNOW in my head that I'm not ready for a kid - maybe in another year or two - but why can't I stop thinking about it?! It's driving me nuts. Going to the baby shower today just makes me think that I'm "behind" somehow, but I know I'm not! These people were just too fast to get on the baby train, right?!
Is anybody else experiencing this?!
Re: What is my problem?!
Definitely. I'm young for our group of friends (25) and in the middle of grad school... so we're DEF not ready for a kid. Some of our good friends just had their first or working on their second. There is no such thing about being "behind." I think that it's good that you are trying to plan what's best for you, your husband, and your future family.
We keep trying to plan things like vacations, date nights, etc to keep our mind off of it. You know, things you can't do as easily when you have kids. And if you need some birth control, there is this chili's in Atlanta... last time we were there, it had me wondering if I EVER wanted kids lol. This is totally normal... don't worry.
Couldn't have said it any better. Enjoy just being a couple while you can!
That's hilarious! The baby shower itself was birth control for me! There were SO MANY kids! Somehow, my friend is one of the last of her friends/family to have a baby, so everyone there was about 24 or younger and had at least 1 kid! I don't know, but I think it seems so young! My friend will probably be a grandparent by the time I have a kid in kindergarten! Haha!
There is nothing wrong with you and you are not behind!! Enjoy the time you have just the two of you. I am in no hurry to have kids and I miss hanging out with my "pre-kids" friends. They never want to do anything anymore (even if it's just go out to dinner) let alone have any conversations that do not revolve around the current status of their child. I feel like a scrooge, but it really annoys me. I know you love your baby and want to talk about him, but do I really need to know how many times he spit up today? No, thank you. Start concentrating on spending quality time with your DH. Like dvshaw suggested, start planning date nights, etc.
Lately I've been considering signing up on meetup.com so I can find some other married gals who don't have BOTB, but I'm a little scared to do it. I've always been a little nervous about meeting people via the internet.
There is a girl I work with who played volleyball in college and she joined some volleyball groups on meetup.com and has a great time. I might suggest not going alone the first time (but maybe that's just me...).
I've never heard of this site... sounds like a good idea! DH and I have such a hard time meeting people. We had some couple friends in college, but most don't live very close to us any more. And, several are having kids so I know those won't be the same anymore. Let us know how it goes if you do it!
OMG. I just looked up Atlanta meet up groups and I found this.
Cuddle Party is a fun, playful workshop on connection and communication that includes an abundance of nurturing and affectionate touch. It is safe and structured, non-sexual and drug and alcohol-free event. Called a "Party" because it is so much fun (a wonderful alternative to a standard singles scene and night life)!
WTF????
Cree-py!
I'm almost 34, and am the last of my friends to have kids. I was also the last to get married, buy a house, etc..
I have been left out of kids' parties of all varieties and life events because these friends think I wouldn't be interested since I don't have kids yet.
I haven't had baby dreams, but I definitely feel "behind," although I know my decision to wait has been the right one for me. You aren't alone.
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