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if this was one your board...
Just a ? for the MODs.
I'm having a hard time "keeping the peace" on my board. We were a fairly active board before the knot switch and since then, the girls are going a bit stir-crazy, if you will, bc there aren't a lot of newbie posters or "interesting posts" as the MGs say. We had a bit of an issue with an attack on a newbie which I deleted bc it had been droning on for 3 days on the same girl. Now, my girls insist I'm deleting all the "good" posts or that I'm hypocritical bc I didn't delete this one:
So, if this were on your board, would you delete iT? It's obviously an AE, and the girl hasn't posted again. But in my own defense, I didn't delete the first of the newbie smashing posts - but rather the ones that were one and two days later when they couldn't let the issue go.
Ringpop/danieliza - I think our board was kind of a mini-etiquette with the posts that really get the NJ girls going, if that makes any sense. And I'm not the MOD who deletes every other post bc of whining or has ever banned anyone. So what would you do?
Re: if this was one your board...
There's really nothing you can do to make the ladies on your board play nicely. And deleting things only fuels the fire. Just because the posts are 2-3 days late and it's dragging on isn't a reason to delete something.
I might consider deleting the AE's post and banning the account due to the language used, but it's borderline.
You may want to step in on that particular post and say that even if a random asks for votes, it's not spam until it's posted more than once, so it does not need to be deleted. You may also want to post something like a newbies/lurkers poll to make it known to the regulars that you should all be welcoming new Knotties, not scaring them away.
ETA: If you're considering deleting something, you might want to close it instead of outright deleting it. IDK though...
Our big girl, Cora, and our sneaky kitty, Roxy
What kind of poll?
I've done a newbies/lurkers poll something like this. Change/add to it to suit your board - really the first three are the important ones.
Come out, come out wherever you are! New here? We'd love to get to know you.
1. Your name, FI's name
2. Wedding date
3. How long you've been lurking
4. What you're most excited for about your wedding
Our big girl, Cora, and our sneaky kitty, Roxy
I do not think that is worthy of being deleted or banned. She called them b!tches, big deal. What they were talking about doing is kind of b!tchy.
I find on P&E that the less moderation you do the more the regulars will respect you and listen to what you have to say. I can't really comment not seeing the one that you did delete that you said was dragging on. If people were really harassing one person and it was going on for that long, maybe there was cause to delete it but it's hard to say without being able to read it. Sometimes, instead of deleting, you can just post and say "Hey guys, let's cool it on this" or something like that. I've done that before and thankfully the girls on P&E will listen.
Another thing I learned early on, you don't have to defend your Mod action to them. You are the Mod, you're "job" is make sure the rules aren't being broken and if you feel like something crosses the line, you handle it. Period. You don't have to keep responding every time they bring it up or complain about you. Just ignore it and keep posting like everything is normal. It'll calm down and go away.