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F/U, SIL's reaction to pregnancy sucked!
Hey ladies,
DH and I just got home from a wonderful weekend away in Seattle.. had simply the best time, just hanging out together. Now that we're home we skyped his parents and told them to open a "Grandpa and Grandma" Valentine's card I sent last week (marked 'please don't open until v-day). His Mom's reaction was AMAZING, so hilarious - needless to say his parents are thrilled for us. His Mom suggested we call his sister and tell her, that she would be so happy as well, to be an Auntie. So, with seconds in between calls my dear husband calls his sister and tells her... he says she'll be an Auntie and she says "Oh... really?" It was heartbreaking... the reaction, her tone, the underwhelmed-ness of it. It took her a few seconds but she finally said "congrats" and I don't know if she meant it or not. The whole thing was a *huge* disappointment. Figures, eh? I just had to share, what a mood dampener after a lovely weekend :P
Re: F/U, SIL's reaction to pregnancy sucked!
Sounds like you had such a wonderful weekend! It is so sweet that you shared your news on Valentine's Day with your IL's that way.
As for the SIL...seems like she just doesn't want anyone else to be happy. If it's not about her, then it comes across that it simply doesn't matter. I could be way off, but it sure sounds like that!
Any rate T, don't let her get you down! I think it's safe to say we absolutely adore you here and you will always have our support and friendship.
xoxox
I had a siImilar reaction from my sister, not even SIL, when we got pg the first time. She said, don't get too excited until you go to the dr. So when I got pg the second time, I just sent her a text, I didn't want to be disappointed again.
It sucks. I'm sorry.
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Oh honey, I'm sorry. If it makes you feel any better, my SIL's reaction wasn't much better.
Ben called her to tell her the news about the twins, and after they chatted for a minute he handed me the phone and said she wanted to talk to me. The first thing out of her mouth? "So you just HAD to out-do me, didn't you?" And she was dead serious, not joking around. She had a baby 2 years ago and thinks that everything we do is a competition (I genuinely have NO idea why since I don't play her ridiculous little games). Although I have to admit that she's part of the reason I was so happy we were having boys...all the other grandkids in Ben's family are girls, and SIL really wanted to be the one to have the first boy, but she ended up with a girl. So when we had the big ultrasound, I thought to myself, "HA! Suck it, SIL! Twins AND boys! Neener neener neener!" I'm not petty or anything lol.
Anyway, I'm sorry that her reaction was so sucky. But it sounds like the rest of your weekend was wonderful, so yaaaay!
Ewwww. That's awful Tara. I am sure you didn't expect much from her, but there was probably a small part of you, deep down, that was hoping for her to be decent and supportive. That really sucks.
Sounds like the weekend was wonderful, your ILs reaction was great - keep those memories alive from the weekend. We love you!
Oh, boo, I'm sorry she had such a negative reaction. Some people just can't be happy for anyone else. It's maddening.
But, like PP said, we're all thrilled for you! And it sounds like, if SIL continues to pout about it, she will definitely be the odd-one-out because the rest of the family is so happy. That's too bad for her, but I'm really glad that your IL's are so excited. What a fun way to tell them the good news!
Your SIL sucks!
I'm super excited for you and Ian, try to not worry about her too much.
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Boo! Is this your SIL that just had a baby? Maybe she's just overwhelmed by new mommyhood to be excited? I dunno...what a weird reaction from her.
Or is it SIL that's getting married? If so, can you say bridezilla? I am sure she feels you're stealing her thunder. Whatevah! Once that baby is here she'll be over it for sure. Being an Auntie is AWESOMENESS!
Yay for a great weekend in Seattle and for the awesome way of announcing your PG to your ILs...hopefully SIL will come around too.
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Thanks Lori
Good question, it's the SIL who is getting married. My other SIL was over the moon for us, which is no surprise, she's the best SIL
But yeah, this is the wedding I'm supposed to be in... I can hardly wait to see how this unravels! :P
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Tara & Ian . 4/24/2008 . The Kahala Planning . Married
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Ian's parents (and your family of course) are all that matters, SIL can suck eggs! And ditto to all the ladies' wise words to you.
I love Hawaii!
Tara & Ian . 4/24/2008 . The Kahala Planning . Married
I'm sorry - but I agree with PPs, I think your SIL would have trouble being happy for anyone, for any reason.
Good luck dealing with her for the upcoming wedding. Your mental wellbeing for the sake of your little baby is most important right now, so try not to let her get your down, it's not worth it.
Jaime & Brent
Oahu, Hawaii | Sept. 9, 2005
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