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My exhausting and emotional weekend...Super long!
So friday I was at vball, Patrick actually showed up and everything was fine. Then after we freaking lost we all stayed after and played, yes Paul and Patrick both stayed. We played until like 11:15 then I got ready and met Patrick up at billiards. I was kicking his @ss in pool (idk how) and then something happened and he was like I think our personalities are too much alike and that we would clash and argue a lot. I felt like I was going to puke but then again I felt a sense of relief that I didn't have to make the decision. Some how he cooled down and we started talking and ended up back at my house. Idk what it is but for some reason I think we both know that it wont work but don't want to let each other go. For some reason I cried when I woke up, I cried when I dropped him off, I cried again when I saw Stacy and once more at skiing....WHAT THE F*CK IS WRONG WITH ME????
So after 2 hrs of sleep, we all met up over at Pauls and hit the road. I have a bit of an anxiety problem when I go on road trips and other ppl drive, idk. We get up there and hit the slopes, I fell once and then again when I snowboarded freaking plowed me!! @ssface! lol Then we were going tubing and I got some anxiety and Paul came down to sit with me...I totally didn't want him to miss out but he didn't care. So we talked for a while and finally we tubing OMG it was a freaking blast and i couldn't stop laughing!! It was so freaking cold that our snot was freezing inside our nose! lol So Paul and I slept on a freaking air mattress, which I can't stand by the way, OMG what a sleepless frustrating night!!! He was sooo sweet though. The guys turned off the tv and I told him that the silence was gonna drive me nuts, so he pulled out his iPhone and turned on the sugarland Pandora station (he knows I love it) and let me listen while he rubbed my back and just when I would fall asleep he'd snore in my freaking ear!!!!!!!!!AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!! So another night of 2 hrs of sleep, my brain was clearly not functioning correctly! lol
When we got back in town we talked some more and I told him to quit holding back and he said that he thinks I am the one! Oh sh!t lol I told him I felt the same
I know you guys think Im freaking nuts but idk what it is about Patrick that I can't let go, well I kinda do but I also know that Paul and I would have an awesome life together! It is kinda like I know that I need to eat healthy but it is just a matter of doing it and giving up the sweets that I am addicted to...ya know? Sorry that was soooo freaking long!
Re: My exhausting and emotional weekend...Super long!
I've been waiting all weekend for an update!
I love snow tubing. Glad you had such a good time!
What a crazy situation. Paul sounds super sweet, but I think you need to tell us more about each guy. You're living your own mini soap opera.
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wow! i can't believe patrick had a change of heart again! he's crazy! too much drama w/him - you want a guy who knows what he wants and goes after it - it being you!
paul sounds really nice. twice i've had really good guy friends who wanted something "more" and it never worked for me. there was a reason that we started off as friends and i could never flip the switch and have romantic feelings, as hard as i tried since both were amazing guys.
if you can do that with paul, that would be awesome! keep us posted!
ITA with jen.
and it still hurts my heart that you were sooooooooooo close to me this weekend.
wow britt!!!! sounds really crazy/fun! i think your heart knows you are going to end up with paul, but you're attracted to patrick. this happened to me right before i moved to denver to marry zach. i was dating/sleeping with this guy joe who was totally wrong for me, but i couldn't let go. i had to move 1600 miles away to move on. it's hard, but you can do it. we can help! haha...
i PPH paul.. he sounds amazing!
Paul sounds like a sweetheart. I saw your pics on fb and was waiting for an update. you guys would look totally cute together.
Best of luck with all of this. I'm sure making the decision to cross the friend line or not is super hard!
Kara....yes, Paul is the bff and Patrick is the hottie. We've pretty much just been doing it for like 6 mos now...sorry if that is TMI...it's just the truth lol
Andrea...yes, it feels like a soap opera and is super duper stressful! What do you want to know about the guys? I know that it is pretty much a clear cut decision but I am just having a problem letting Patrick go =( Paul is my bff, he knows me better than anyone on this planet. We talk for hours about any and everything and always have a blast! He loves and accepts me for who I am and always wants to do whatever he can to put a smile on my face. Patrick is the hottest human being that I have EVER laid my eyes on! There is sooo much passion and hottness there with him that I have never felt with anyone else before. We also have a good time together but we dont talk like Paul and I do. I feel like he doesn't want to really open up to me...idk, his ex REALLY did him dirty and screwed him up pretty bad! I really try to listen to my MeMe, since she is so wise lol She is like hunny, you have to have someone that you have things in common with and that you can talk to bc looks and sex fades. So true MeMe! I said how hot patrick is and she is like well baby hot burns! sh!t is hot but it isn't good! aahahahhaa!! she is so awesome!
Jen...I know, I couldn't believe what I was hearing...I wanted to puke!
Tiff....I am SOOOOOOOOO sorry!! Next time we come up I will let you know....the way things went I don't even know when I would have been able to meet up with ya =(
Really?? How did you let go??
yep, really. before i moved, i had a very real conversation with him about how the electricity between us was too much for me to deal with, when i was trying to move into a new relationship with zach. he asked why the electricity wasn't enough. i told him basically what your MeMe said... the electricity will fade. the hotness will disappear and we'll be left with nothing. we were not in love, we were in lust. those are not equal. he asked if he could call me from time to time or keep up on myspace. i told him to lose my number. and i walked out. and then i cried, because i knew i hurt his feelings, and frankly, i was going to miss the sex. but there was something more important at stake..
i married zach as a stronger woman.
that's just my experience.. you will have your own, based on what you choose. we're here for you, britt!
Did anyone else watch Tough Love this season? LOL, this kind of reminds me of it! What they said is that you deserve to be loved and not sell yourself short you ARE a 10 and deserve to be treated like one! So if Patrick doesn't want to fight for you or act at all like he's interested then you need to let him go because there's nothing that will change it and like they said lust will fade, love stays. So while the sex is good, there's got to be more than just sex because you can't do that all the time! There will be times when it's just you two and you have to talk! I would be real with Patrick and see what's going on because Paul seems to want to fight for you no matter what and maybe you're just afraid of losing a friend too.
I love our mini soap opera.
WOW!! Good for you girl! Idk why, but this made me cry! wtf is wrong with me??? ugh!!!! At least you got to move away...Patrick goes to my gym. I know that I could go to another one and I may for a while until I think Im over him but he just sucks me back in every time I look at him. I have a lot of friends at that gym and Im not willing to give that up!
LOL Im glad I can enterain you babe! aahahaha!!! I don't think that Patrick would be willing to change the things that he needs to change for us to actually work...I know what needs to be done, I just have to do it and that is the hard part! I wish patrick would have just stuck with what he said the other night!
You totally equate the physical stuff with Patrick and the emotional stuff with Paul.
Can you see there being something more emotional with Patrick? What about physical with Paul? Your Meme is smart - but I think you definitely need to have both, with the emotional being most important since that's who will still be there for you at the end of the day.
Have you told Paul how you feel? Do you think he feels the same way?
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Paul and I have done some kissing and that is about it, but it was some good kissing lol I think if Patrick would ever let me in that there could possibly be something more but he just doesn't give me the time that Paul does and who knows if or when he'd ever be ready. I feel like with him I would always be worried like if he went out without me but with Paul I don't feel like I would have a care in the world.
Paul knows exactly how I feel....do I think he feels the same way as far as what?
Does Paul want to be with you? What does he think about your relationship with Patrick?
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This is the text I just got from Paul:
I love you baby! I know I want to be with you, it is that simple for me. Like I said yesterday...its easy for me to be so awesome to you bc I want to see that smile. I want to hold you in my arms. I want to kiss you. I want to be the man that you can count on for everything! I want to be the reason you glow! I want everyone to envy what we have bc it is sooooo awesome. Thats why I am able to wait it out. That hard part for me is knowing you have feelings for another guy. Knowing you are crazy attracted to another guy is killing me! You wanting to spend time with him hurts. I know I should be done with us at this point but I don't want to be done with us. My heart wont let me be done.
Umm, I think that should answer your questions Andrea!! lol
wowww.
Thats what I said! I actually left out a sentence....he said the potential of our future makes him smile and he wants it BAD!
Ha. Um, yep. Pretty much sums it up. How cute!
I know we have very limited information here, but I feel that I need to state, for the record, that I'm on team Paul.
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TEAM PAUL
I mean i obviously dont know the whole situation but from your previous posts it seems like Patrick might end up screwing you over in the long run. And who knows.. .maybe Paul isn't the right guy either but why not give it a try? ya never know
In my own experiences and most of my friends.. the super hotties usually end up not so great.. nice to look at but thats about it
Whatever you decide to do you know we're all here for advice and support
diiittttooo!
Good point Pammy! Ive noticed that a lot of the hotties are douchebags! Thanks for all of the love ladies...Im glad I can keep yall entertained! lol Gerrie...where are ya?? lol
Team Paul all the way...the way he talks about you is absolutely adorable. He seems way perfect, you gotta give him a good shot. Patrick has a lot of issues going on...it may be a working draft with him all the time. Paul seems like gold!
TEAM PAUL!!!
There is no way a person that cares that much about you won't have an insane level of passion. It might be different, but probably so so nice. Give up the bad boys girl, it's time!
Absolutely positively Team Paul.
Too much drama with Patrick.
OMG WOW!!!!!