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so i copped an attitude with my SIL this weekend in a passive-agressive way.
we went to her place, and she was making fish for dinner. now, i love fish, love it love it love it. DH on the other hand has an aversion to adult foods (he knows it, so does everyone around us). she ended up making her own kids eat a bowl of cereal and nacho chips with melted cheese because they don't eat what she was making.
they are 6 and 11. she and i have very different ideas on parenting. i know i don't have kids, but i do know that i eat almost everything and DH does not, because his parents never made it a point to get him to try anything.
so SIL asked DH if he wanted her to make something special because he won't eat fish, and he told her he'd try the fish. he's not one to make other people go out of their way like this.
SIL said, "but if you don't like fish, you won't like this".
i piped in and said, "he said he'd try it. and if he doesn't try it, he won't know if he likes it or not." and then waited for her to reply. and guess what - he liked it.
i get really annoyed about this crap. she will put food in front of her kids and tell them, "you probably won't like this, but you can try it if you want to". WTF does she think they'll end up saying?
Re: so i copped an attitude with my SIL this weekend in a passive-agressive way.
I'm glad he liked it, but it kind of sounds like you both were treating the husband like a kid. May not be how it happened, just saying.
i read it back and i agree. it does sound like that.
i was just annoyed she was feeding her kids cereal and nachos.
Oh I know that pain, my ILs are the same.
Amen. DD loves green beans, and FIL refused to believe it until he watched her gobble down a jar of them. And pureed green beans are about the nastiest form of green beans there is. (Hell, I wouldn't eat them, and I actually love them steamed or sauteed.) He kept saying, "She doesn't like green beans--no one like green beans!" I was so glad she couldn't understand him.
My BFF's BF will not eat ANYTHING! H made green beans one night, and he wouldn't even TRY one. His mom totally babied him and never had him try anything that he "didn't like." Half the time, "didn't like" meant, "I have never tried it but I THINK I won't like it."
Personally, I can tell you that I used to suffer from "I don't think I'll like it" syndrome. It is terrible because you are missing out on so much, just because of your mind set. The only way to get over that is to TRY things, which doesn't often kill people. Further, you'll be a lot more fun to be around for everyone else. Win-win!
I can tell you I don't like chicken's feet, rachero sauce and tripe, but I have tried these things and that is what matters.