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Meltdown last night & DH vent (long)
Miller's diabetes had been under control for the past few months. For the last week or two, she's been back to her pre-diagnosed ways of drinking gallons of water and peeing all over the place when we're not home to let her out. She wakes me up multiple times a night to let her out and refill her water. She also has a UTI that we got antibiotics for, but apparently it didn't clear the infection up all the way. Now she's taking much stronger antibiotics that we started last night. (This dog gets UTIs like it's her job.)
She woke me up around 1:30am this morning for the usual out the back door and water drinking routine. She comes back into our bedroom and throws up all over the floor. I'm tired and couldn't be bothered to get right up to clean it up (yes, I know that's gross), so I tried to go back to sleep.
I finally fell back asleep around 3am when Miller wakes me up again to let her out. I step in the vomit on the way to open the door and completely lost it and started sobbing.
DH comes out of the bedroom asking me what's wrong and I just screamed "I can't take it any more! I NEVER get to sleep at night!". He took care of letting Miller out and I got back into bed and proceeded to cry loudly. He locks the dog out of the bedroom and I hear her throw up again in the kitchen. F my life.
For the past 2 weeks I've maybe gotten 4 hours of sleep a night. DH never wakes up let the dog out when she starts making noise, and when I try to wake him up I'm unsuccessful. Today he emails me to tell me he's going to bed early tonight because "all the puking and screaming last night really got to me."
Let me get out my tiny violin for him. I'm the one who should be complaining about being tired, but I have to suck it and be the one who deals with the dog every night.
I keep reminding myself that this is what it will be like when we have a baby, but at least I'll have chosen it and the baby will eventually sleep through the night.
Re: Meltdown last night & DH vent (long)
ugh that sucks
Here is what you do. Go get yourself some ear plugs. Let the dog wake up Dh from now on
I am so sorry you feel like this. It sucks.
Hopefully you can get Miller back to being regulated and that will eliminate a bit of your issues.
As for your DH . . . yes, this is exactly what it will be like with a baby. Only you will like it much, much more than cleaning up dog vomit. I loved getting up for the middle of the night feedings because Bebe was so peaceful and it was when I felt the most connected to her. Even now I'm the one who gets up to feed and change her, etc. R goes to bed early, sleeps in late, then complains that he didn't get enough rest . . . and I want to squeeze his neck until his face pops.
But I don't. I just remind myself that he is missing out on some super important bonding time and will regret it later. And then I snuggle up with Bebe and remind myself how its all worth it.
You just need to have a baby and get past the dog puking . . . and possibly invest in some duct tape for your DH's mouth when he wants to say something stupid.
I've tried this, but he doesn't get up. Unfortunately for me and luckily for him, he can sleep through anything like most other people in the military.
However, I've preemptively threatened to put a poopy baby diaper on his face if he doesn't wake up when we have a kid.
We've upped Miller's insulin dosage again, and I went home at lunch to let her outside. She hadn't touched the water in her bowl in the couple hours that I was gone, and that's a very good sign. Hopefully we'll both sleep tonight!
So sorry you havent been getting sleep, I can only imagine how frustrating this all is. Hopefully the new dosage should help.
Oh, I would be laying a little smack down about that little comment when I went home. WTH. He sleeps through three of the incidents and then complains when he gets woken up once? Next time the dog whined, I'd pour the dog bowl on him, inform him she needs to go out, and go back to sleep.
Ok, maybe that's not the most mature response. But I would talk to him about. I hope puppy is feeling better soon! I'm glad the increased insulin seems to be working.
Wow--I'm so sorry! That just really stinks-I hope you get some good sleep soon as it can just wear you down-which sounds like you're there...
I hope Miller's insulin change helps and gets Miller where he needs to be!
Hate it when the men folk think they're the only ones doing stuff. I like what Veruca says in pp... lots warm thoughts to you for a ton of awesome sleeping nights!
ditto.
This.
DH always sleeps through cat problems. (They are my cats,but he NEVER hears them!) I get up and handle them every.single.time. And when I go back to work after this baby comes (maybe even before I go back to work), he will be getting up at night. Even if I am breastfeeding. I'll pump so he can get up at night too. No reason for me to be miserable all by my lonesome. I already get up to pee at least once, if not 2 times a night.