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Hollylb3 · February 2010

Okay, so my husband and I were getting extrememly honest the other night, talking about fantasies. I mentioned that I get turned on when I see other women naked, and that I find naked women more attractive than men. As in, when I'm having solo sex, I look at women. I most definitely am not a lesbian. Love my hubby dearly, and have never felt any urges. He seems to think I'm a freak. I'm not, right?

sawwasmif · February 2010

Not a freak at all. It's quite normal, as a matter of fact, and I myself do the same on occasion.

Of course, I've done more than look in the past, too.

head_sit · February 2010

Women ARE more attractive naked then men. I thought that was just common sense.

You are not a freak. You are someone who appreciates beauty.

You may also fall into the "I kissed a girl and I liked it" class... not full on gay, but turned on by the notion...?? I've never been with a woman, but the idea turns me on. I'm married now, and I know DH isn't interested in adding an extra to the mix, so I will have to just stick to the fantasies. And that's fine with me.

It's normal, I'm sure. If not, I'll join your freak club. Devil

magsugar13 · February 2010

He thinks you are a freak?

Hollylb3 · February 2010

Yeah, pretty much. I guess I have fantasies, but just more for his entertainment, which he has joked about, but has said he'd never want to actually do, that he wants me all to himself. Guess he's worried I'll leave him for a woman.

psycotic_penguin · February 2010

you are not a freak and he shouldn't of called you one.

Hollylb3 · February 2010

He didn't say it in a mean way, he said it in a Ryan Reynolds off The Proposal, funny kinda way. I think it really just took him by surprise because I'm normally super conservative, and we don't do porn or anything like that. But we were in the hot tub on vacation, and things just spilled out!

psycotic_penguin · February 2010

Ah because the way you wrote it the first time came across as if he was being an asss. It is good you guys can share your fantasies though, keep on doing it!!

AbbeyRoad77 · February 2010

Me too! Ditto what most others said.

I bet he secretly loves that you fantasize about women. Better that than him thinking about you thinking about another man, right?

And, btw, fantasizing about a girl and being with one are two totally different things. (The fantasizing is better if you're straight.)

candaceleigh21 · February 2010

I do not think that is a "freak-ish" thing at all. I think naked women are WAY more attractive than naked men. I mean really..would you rather see Kim Kardashian naked or Jack Nichalson! YUCK! Anywho...he may have just been taken off guard that 1. you actually have FANTASIES and 2. they are about women...just give him some time to absorb it and you may find that he is way more cool with it than origionally!

bobbilovesben · February 2010

I don't think you're a "freak" by any means. I think it's only normal for a woman to be curious in a sense. It's more uncommon for men because they relate it moreso to being "gay". Let's face it, women are gorgeous! We have sex appeal and yummy curves. We're also more open to commenting about a women's appearance, such as, "she's really pretty!" Guys don't have that comfort level with evaluating another guy due to the fear of being labeled "gay". I'm sure your husband is fine with it. You were open and honest, that's what matters. As long as you don't go off and take your curiousity to another level...you're good! :-)

magsugar13 · February 2010

So, then why were upset by his comment?

lookame3639 · February 2010

Honestly I find women more attractive than men. I fantasize about them every now and then, I'm not a lesbian but I've done things in the past. Nothing extensive but kissing and it wasn't a big deal*shrug* your normal

sawwasmif · February 2010

I've gone further than just kissing. It was an eye opening experience, and a lot of fun. I still consider myself normal, and so does my DH. He had a lot of questions for me when I first told him, though!

rels09 · February 2010

Try this photo - it's NSFW, but I promise it's not porn or spam. It's a shot of the VS models.

http://current.com/items/88800189_victorias-secret-models-take-it-off-again-didnt-the-fashion-show-just-happen.htm

Hollylb3 · February 2010

Thanks everyone for the affirmation. I read him the responses to prove that I'm normal. I still don't think he's convinced, but oh well! He is, in fact, turned on by the fact, he just thinks it's abnormal for a straight woman. He even asked me if I was looking at anything today and wanted details. Now if I can only get some more out of him about his fantasies...

DCMcQueen · February 2010

I dont think you're a freak, but I think you have bi tendancies. I've only made out with other women, but thats where it starts. you fantasize but dont feel like you want to act on it, then you start thinking about it. You might be bi, you might not. but either way, there's most certainly nothing wrong with you. I would never be with a woman in a relationship, but when it comes to sex appeal, you either have it, or you don't. to me, it doesnt matter if youre male or female, I see it in both.

chrissykaren · February 2010

Most sex-experts agree that the majority of a personal's sexuality isn't simply "I like men" or "I like women". Kinsey described it as a scale, from 1 to 10, 1 being totally grossed-out by the same sex, 10 being totally and completely interested in the same sex. He said most people are actually a 3-4. That doesn't mean you'll act on it, or that you are bi or anything. It is a normal part of the human experience.

And ditto the girl who said, "That's just common sense". Women are WAY better looking naked.

2carbuffs · February 2010

I like looking at women too. It's not really a big deal. Like you, I love my husband & enjoy sex with him very much ;-)

The_Quiet_One · February 2010

Hollylb3:
Okay, so my husband and I were getting extrememly honest the other night, talking about fantasies. I mentioned that I get turned on when I see other women naked, and that I find naked women more attractive than men. As in, when I'm having solo sex, I look at women. I most definitely am not a lesbian. Love my hubby dearly, and have never felt any urges. He seems to think I'm a freak. I'm not, right?

No, you're not a freak, and it's not as uncommon as your husband seems to think.

Research into female sexuality has become really popular in the past couple of decades. There are all sorts of studies out there on what turns women on and what drives women's desires. One from 2003 out of Northwestern might help your urges make sense to your husband: the study found that while men were turned on by images of the gender/partnerings with which they identify (ie, straight men turned on by images of men and women having sex, gay men turned on by images of men having sex with other men), women were turned on by basically all of it.

To quote from the article on it, "As in many areas of sexuality, research on women's sexual arousal patterns has lagged far behind men's, but the scant research on the subject does hint that, compared with men, women's sexual arousal patterns may be less tightly connected to their sexual orientation."

Here's a link to the article: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2003/06/030613075252.htm

It's not definitive, but to me it makes sense. I'm turned on by images of men and women, but I have no true sexual attraction to women (been there, tried that, just didn't do anything for me).

TheOnlyLisa · February 2010

i do the exact same thing! when im doing the solo act, i only watch lesbian porn and mostly fantasie about women. however, i love my bf very much. it doesnt make you a freak! it makes u human. women are beautiful creatures, while men, tend to be a little icky sumtimes lol

tommyandy · February 2010

just wait till you watch girl on girl porn with him.

fit654 · February 2010

I would agree with you... I can appreciate a beatiful sexy woman just as much as a sexy man... I am not bi.. maybe a bit curious but would never actually act on it. But in our society I would say it is pretty normal. Women are so often presented in a sexual context it doesn't take much effort to see a sexy woman and feel turned on. I know my boyfriend in high school watched "blue crush" several times... and it wasn't just for him, those girls were hot!

Hollylb3 · February 2010

'Quiet', about that study, yeah I think I read that a while back, too. I just forgot about it. Judging from the responses, I don't care if he thinks I'm a freak anymore. He handed me the Victoria's Secret catalog that came in the mail yesterday and said, "Here's some new material for ya." I guess the idea really does something for him, whether I'm a freak or not!

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