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Advice needed....
First off im not sure if this is going to happen, but if it does I want to be semi prepared and keep my cool.
Here is the situation... My ILs anniversary is on Feb 26 and so is DH sisters 19th bday. On Feb 27th is Jaidens 1st bday and we are having a party and of course all the family is coming and some close friends of ours are too. Here is what may or may not happen. I have a gut feeling that the ILs are going to try and bring the 19 yr old a cake and celebrate her birthday while we are celebrating Jaidens. Now any other birthday like his 2nd, 3rd, etc I would be cool with this, but his 1st. Like I said im not sure if its going to happen but i have this feeling they will do something like this and I feel this way for many reason (completly different story and extremely long).My question is that if this does happen how should I react? Knowing me I will yell scream and throw the biggest fit, but at the same time I want to be civil. What would you do if you were in this situation. TIA.
Re: Advice needed....
If it happens, I would go with it for the following reasons:
1) Jaiden won't know the difference. He actually would have more of a chance of noticing if it was his 2nd, 3rd, etc. birthday.
2) I celebrate a joint birthday with my brother in law all the time. Two cakes are better than one.
3) It's not a hill I would want to die on with the in-laws.
Thanks. I know that he wont remember. I just have to tell myself to relax and let the day unfold the way its going to.
you should suggest they do the birthday and anniversary together if they bring it up:) you know since they are family and all. but I bet the 19 doesn't want the same party as a one year old.. I wouldn't.
Can you do your son's cake first like during the party and then pull out the sister's cake later, towards the end when most of the friends have left & just family is there and Jaiden (I hope I spelled that correctly) is tired and over having all the attention on him?
I agree with this. But also, I don't think it's unreasonable if you say, "I know this is right around 19 year old birthday and the anniversary... but I really want this to be special for Jaiden." Just refrain from throwing things
DH parents dont celebrate their anniversary, but his sister will do anything to be the center of attnetion. From what I understand today from texting my MIL is that she isnt even sure if the 19yr old is coming. OS who knows now whats going to happen.
that sounds like something my in-laws would do too. And to be honest, I would rather my in-laws did bring the cake to the party (I would, however, wait until most of the guests had left and it was only family still around), because then that's one less time we have to get together with them. That sounds terrible, but it's true.
And I know that 19 is totally different, but we always celebrate Lincoln's birthday with my sister's boy (my nephew) who is 3 years older than Lincoln, their birthdays are 3 days apart.