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F/U to MIL visiting
So she came out here today...her husband drove her. They arrived around a quarter to 10 a.m. and stayed until about 3 p.m. We had a great visit! My mom had to work but came home for about 30 minutes to say hello to my MIL and to meet my FIL. It was all nice and we even got some cute pics with Libby and BOTH of her grandmothers. After my mom left, Libby was hungry so I took her in the nursery to nurse. My MIL asked if she could join us, I said sure.
She tearfully apologized for her earlier antics...she hoped that I could forgive her and not let it tarnish our relationship. She also wanted to know if I had shared any of the goings-on with my mom. I assured her no...it was just between us. She said she had really prayed about her feelings and did a self-inventory (she's a recovering alcoholic and uses the 12 steps regularly) and said that it was painful to do but necessary. And she was not happy that her insecurity got the best of her and allowed her to go down that path of jealousy. She said as soon as she saw my mom today she knew it was all fabricated in her head. She said my mom was so genuine and loving and she feels bad for ever thinking negatively at all about the situation.
Anyway, I am really proud of us standing our ground with her and also proud of her for being able to admit she was wrong (she said it herself) and to get over it. That takes a really big person. She said that at 68 years old she was suprised that she could get to that jealous/insecure place so easily, but she was grateful for the opportunity to work through it and not have it held against her by me or J. I reminded her that we're only human.
So...it's the best outcome I could have imagined...we have a great visit...so much so she's making plans to do it again soon. It did tire her out...I asked that they call once they made it home and I could hear in her voice how tired she was. But she was the happiest I've heard her in a long, long time too. And I am happy that she got to meet her granddaughter and hold her and study her features. It's been ages since she's held a baby.
And I was happy to have the time together...for J...his mom gave up custody to his father when he was 2 years old and he's never remembers living with his mom, just visiting over summer breaks, etc. Being here in OK is very special...he sees his mom now more than ever before and now that Libby's here I know it means that much more to him. I got some darling photos of him and his mom with Libby.
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what a relief! I'm so glad she came around.
kudos for you guys for sticking your ground too!
I love Hawaii!
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