November 2008 Weddings
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My uncle is getting married.

Back story:   My uncle (my mother's younger brother) has a horrible track record with women.  He has been married twice and both time the women have left him for "bigger and better things".  He then had a girlfriend a few years back who was an alcoholic and she ended up dying of liver failure on his birthday (really really sad). 

Present:  My grandmother is Hungarian and has this friend who is the daughter of one of her friends (the woman is 61) who lives in Hungary and is a successful doctor but she wants to move to the U.S. to start a practice here.  So my grandmother starts hyping up my uncle saying he's this great guy and that she will set them up so they can get married and she can get her green card and take the medical exams here to get her license.

Christmas 2009-This woman comes to visit from Hungary for 3 months (she is still here,leaving in March) to visit California, visit my grandmother and meet my uncle.  My uncle is well aware of what my grandmother is trying to do and says that nothing is going to happen.

However, I just found out this weekend that all of a sudden my uncle and this woman are "in love".  She is living with him in his house and she is cooking for him everynight, making his breakfast everymorning, apparently she also cleaned his whole house and she is even wearing hair extensions in her short hair because my uncle prefers long hair (!!!).

My mom told me they are getting married this November.  She has to go back to Hungary to work and then my uncle will visit in July and then they will come back together in August.  

I just don't know what to think, even my mom didn't say anything negative about it (and my mom is the type to judge these kinds of situations).  I just find it very weird and all of a sudden and I feel as if this woman is just going to screw my uncle over again just to get her green card so that she can practice medicine here.  

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  • imageilovedesi:

     

    My mom told me they are getting married this November.  She has to go back to Hungary to work and then my uncle will visit in July and then they will come back together in August.  

    I'm sorry, this is immature - but the first thing I thought when I saw this way, "Does this mean she can join the November board?"

    That is a completely crazy story. I wonder if they'll really go through with it!

  • imageJackandCassie:
    imageilovedesi:

     

    My mom told me they are getting married this November.  She has to go back to Hungary to work and then my uncle will visit in July and then they will come back together in August.  

    I'm sorry, this is immature - but the first thing I thought when I saw this way, "Does this mean she can join the November board?"

    That is a completely crazy story. I wonder if they'll really go through with it!

    I'm wondering the same thing, but she really wants to live here and practice medicine.  I think she will do anything to stay here.  Even marry my uncle.. .

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  • Dude, that is bad news bears. I have a friend going through a divorce right now because of all that and it is a NIGHTMARE to get a divorce from a foreign person. There are so many complex issues to deal with. I hope she is really in it for love and not for her green card!
  • imageTWiNKfly:
    Dude, that is bad news bears. I have a friend going through a divorce right now because of all that and it is a NIGHTMARE to get a divorce from a foreign person. There are so many complex issues to deal with. I hope she is really in it for love and not for her green card!

    AHH. Sorry, sidenote, Twink, but my friends INSIST I am the only person who says this. Now I know I'm not crazy and I got it from somewhere.

    Also, isn't immigration pretty good at weeding out people who just get married for green cards?

  • imageJackandCassie:

    imageTWiNKfly:
    Dude, that is bad news bears. I have a friend going through a divorce right now because of all that and it is a NIGHTMARE to get a divorce from a foreign person. There are so many complex issues to deal with. I hope she is really in it for love and not for her green card!

    AHH. Sorry, sidenote, Twink, but my friends INSIST I am the only person who says this. Now I know I'm not crazy and I got it from somewhere.

    Also, isn't immigration pretty good at weeding out people who just get married for green cards?

    Cassie, your friends are super wrong! I say it too!

  • Oh man, that doesn't sound very promising.  I hope she's really in it for love and not a green card Huh?
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  • imageJackandCassie:

    imageTWiNKfly:
    Dude, that is bad news bears. I have a friend going through a divorce right now because of all that and it is a NIGHTMARE to get a divorce from a foreign person. There are so many complex issues to deal with. I hope she is really in it for love and not for her green card!

    AHH. Sorry, sidenote, Twink, but my friends INSIST I am the only person who says this. Now I know I'm not crazy and I got it from somewhere.

    Also, isn't immigration pretty good at weeding out people who just get married for green cards?

    Didn't Lore have to go through an interview to make sure that they got married for the right reasons and not to get her green card?

  • Hopefully third time is a charm and she just isn't seeking that green card.
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    imageJackandCassie:

    imageTWiNKfly:
    Dude, that is bad news bears. I have a friend going through a divorce right now because of all that and it is a NIGHTMARE to get a divorce from a foreign person. There are so many complex issues to deal with. I hope she is really in it for love and not for her green card!

    AHH. Sorry, sidenote, Twink, but my friends INSIST I am the only person who says this. Now I know I'm not crazy and I got it from somewhere.

    Also, isn't immigration pretty good at weeding out people who just get married for green cards?

    Didn't Lore have to go through an interview to make sure that they got married for the right reasons and not to get her green card?

    Hmm, good point.  Well they are living together and are seemingly "happy" right now.  We'll see.

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  • Well, I have to say that it's quite a process and is not that easy. I'm Russian and my husband is an American. The legal way to marry an American is to get a fiance's visa. It takes from 6 months to one year to get it. First, you file an enormous package with all kinds of documents proving that you have a relation and that you are financially capable to take care of your future wife when she comes the states. It's quite an effort to get all the information together especially when she is in Hungary and he is in the states. Some of the papers even need to be originals i.e. signed by him. So it will add time. Not to mention that it's also expensive :) You pay around $500 for filing the application. Then if their papers get approved she will go for the interview to the US Embassy and they'll ask for proof of their relation. If that works, after they get married they should file another application (more $$$ to pay) to get a green card. I have to say it's not an easy process when you have real relations and live together not to mention "love" and living in separate countries when filing the papers. If I were them I wouldn't be that sure about the wedding day, God knows how long the paper process will take. 
  • imagevrnk77:
    Well, I have to say that it's quite a process and is not that easy. I'm Russian and my husband is an American. The legal way to marry an American is to get a fiance's visa. It takes from 6 months to one year to get it. First, you file an enormous package with all kinds of documents proving that you have a relation and that you are financially capable to take care of your future wife when she comes the states. It's quite an effort to get all the information together especially when she is in Hungary and he is in the states. Some of the papers even need to be originals i.e. signed by him. So it will add time. Not to mention that it's also expensive :) You pay around $500 for filing the application. Then if their papers get approved she will go for the interview to the US Embassy and they'll ask for proof of their relation. If that works, after they get married they should file another application (more $$$ to pay) to get a green card. I have to say it's not an easy process when you have real relations and live together not to mention "love" and living in separate countries when filing the papers. If I were them I wouldn't be that sure about the wedding day, God knows how long the paper process will take. 

    Thanks for all of this information!  Yeah, I don't know if they realize what a long process this is going to be.  I mean, they must know.  From what you are saying, November isn't really an option for them.  

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