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IL (vent)...
Continued from *Weekend* post......
When we got there she had water running so I thought she was washing. So I just sat my baskets down and was waiting when she starts getting my cloths and sprayin gthem with stuff and putting them in the washer, I was like I can do that. She obviously thought I just brought them for her to wash or she didn't want me using her washer or dryer cause at one point she told me that I "could take the first load home and put it in my dryer and she would get my other load going". UM excuse me... if you didn't want me using your stuff you shouldn't have offered to let me use it. I was thinking if DH didn't need these clothes we would leave right now.
When my first load was done she had went into the living room and I thought good I can wash in peace.... oh no. She was right back in there and started the water adn wouldn't let me put my clothes in till the washer filled completely up with water. UGH!!! I mean really there all gonna get wet just the same if I put them in now or later. I just can't even begin to tell you all the ways she insulted me while we were there.
...as I was saying I just don't understand DH's gran.
The reason all this upset me so much is because as you know DH's gran has ALS(Lou Gahriggs) she's 72 I believe. Her 40something year old daughter is living with her, and her 18 year old grand son(BIL) who has been living with her since he was a baby. They do NOTHING for her. MIL(I hate even calling her this but for time sake I will) tells everyone she is just sacrificing to help her mother, BULL HONK-EY!! She sits on her butt and doesn't do didaly squat. It's getting so bad that G told DH she is going to have to hire someone to clean her house, this ticked me off to no end. There are 2 very capable bodies living under her roof and neither of them will do andything. BUT... It's G's fault because her daughter has never had to be acoutable for anything in her whole life. I mean when G saw what a sucky mother she was she moved DH and BIL in with her and MIL did nothing to stop this. Now BIL is going to be JUST LIKE HER!!! I can see it happening and no one is doing anything about it. And I'm not his mother so it's not my place to say or do anything. So like this clothes washing episode... MIL would have just(and does) let G wash all the clothes and not do anything. This whole situation is just sad and pitiful. I wish I had time to tell the whole story but I don't htink the boss would like me writing a novel on his time.
I'm sorry this is so long but I can just see how this upsets DH and how blind G appears to be to it all. and I just want to slap every one of them and say WAKE UP!!!
G- there is no helping your daughter be any better of a person than she is but your grandson can still be saved but if you don't do anything he's gonna be a loser just like her.
MIL- your a lazy slob and a sorry excuse for a daughter, and should be so ashamed of yourself for letting your mother take care of your 4osomething year old self. GROW UP!!!
BIL- You need to wake up and start respecting people. I know you were not tought to do this but your not gonna get anywhere in life think people owe you.
Oh man that felt good. Thanks for listening I'm sorry it so long but I just get so upset over this whole situation. If you made it this far Thank You!!
Re: IL (vent)...
I totally agree and told DH to tell her this but he already had. She said that MIL will take her to the store and if she kicked her out she would have no one to take her to the store. DH said he would, which I don't feel it's our place to have to help her as much because those 2 should be doing enough, but consider they're not, I would be happy to take G to the store so they will stop living off G and milking her for all she's worth.
He is but he dosen't show it as much as I do. He knows his mother is no good and is used to it but I am not so it just gets me riled up when ever she does things like this. He feels he can't do anything about it, and really he can't. The only person that is gonna be able to do anything to make it better is G. She has got to put her foot down. She doesn't want to make MIL mad at her cause then she knows that what she does do she'll stop and G thinks she'll have no one to help her, but obviously G can't see that NO ONE is helping her now.
This. Sorry to hear you're dealing with that
Vent away lady!